- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
I have been working on it and doing my best to create some space between me and the SO. Trying to be the way I wish I was when we were first sniffing around each other…coy…trying to make him chase me. Trying to bring “The Hunt” out of him. Something he is ENJOYING actually. He has been really physically affectionate, which was way out the norm when we first got together but he has really done a lot to be more expressive when it comes to love and affection towards me. (We have very different family dynamics. my fam is very lovey-dovey and his family…make a lot of jokes.. :/ )
So things there have been great. Over the weekend there was a bit of talk between us with our friend’s wedding so close. It is a real Family Affair, our friend is the DJ and was at our place to go over the list and he played a few songs for us. The Couple to be Wed wanted a Deftones cover of a Sade song to be their first dance while I suggested the original be played at our wedding (not for the first dance). He smiled sweetly and didn’t say anything to shoot that idea down.
He caught me looking at rings again… but this was different…I was looking at rings for HIM. Which he was very receptive of. We looked at choices and he picked a cool black titanium ring. Then I caught him looking tapping his left ring ringer, imagining my band on it. It was sweet. I added it to my Pintrest.
The best part was Last night!!!
It has been really, REALLY hot in NYC, which can make co-habitation for lovey-dovey couples like us really hard because it’s so hot, YOU DON’T WANT TO TOUCH EACH OTHER! It’s too sticky. But sure enough he takes nice moments to hug me extra long and we fall asleep with a reusable icepack strapped to my back or my stomach/chest so we can still snuggle. SO SWEET! Once during the heat-wave he was still cuddling with me and said “WHY ARE WE DOING THIS?!” and I said “Cause you love me SO SO MUCH!! And I Love you.” It made me so happy.
So last night he was being super-sweet and I said “You really love me…I can tell” and my SO replied “Really? You just figured it out. 5 Years and you want a ring and NOW you realize how much I love you?!” We laughed about it and I knew I had to PROCEED WITH CAUTION!
Me: Well I want to be your wife….Don’t you want me to be your wife?
SO: OF COURSE I DO!
Me: Ok then.
We talked about not wanting to rush down the isle. How I want us to be debt free before we get hitched and he agreed and said how venues and rings are expected. I told him I found some nice rings for $400, $500 bucks and he balked “That’s too cheap for you.” I blushed. I love him. He wants to give me something wonderful. I told him I never look for anything under White Gold 0.5 Carat and REAL sapphires, not lab created. So he knows those specifications. But I thought it so sweet that he wants to give me something of WORTH. Not just the cheapest trinket.
Our anniversary is coming up the week after my birthday and we already told each other what we want. He wants pickups for his guitar and he wants to give me my first acoustic, he has been teaching me the basics. He knows I would rather he get me the ring and the guitar cost half of the amount of the rings I want…but I have to let him do things on his own time. He is going to probably going to really put his head to start saving AFTER our big dates. So maybe a fall/winter 2012 – spring 2013 for a proposal latest. I would love a New Years Eve Proposal. Every year one of our close friends would host the New Years party for our circle of friends and a few friends have moved, broken up, or had kids so I am trying to get the SO on board with hosting it this year at Our Place. We have no kids yet and we can still throw a rocking house party.
Another couple we know are pulling their hair out because of the price of venues and so I took the opportunity to ask my SO about where he would like to get married or what kind of wedding would he like to have if money was no object (it isn’t because I get everything on the cheap. BARGAIN HUNTER!), and he said he wanted something small, I swung the idea of the place I wanted and he loved it. We talked about how many bridesmaids/ groomsmen we would have and comprised on one representative for each of us and what kind of place we would want our reception. It was really great until I started loosing him on cake-toppers. So I laughed it off and we got ready for sleep.
ALL IN ALL, Everything is going so well. I am so happy. I am trying to treat this “waiting time” like a sort of re-courtship. We are going out on dates now that all these great movies are coming out. We are Dating each other again…It is so romantic.