Post # 1
Hi! My fiance and I finally set a date and our venue. Since we’re both from two different states, our reception venue is in “middle-ground.” That being said, a lot of our guests will be either traveling an hour to the wedding or staying over in hotels.
We also plan on getting married in a chruch. I would like the church to be close to the hotel so people can go to the hotel after the ceremony since there will be a gap in time between the cereomy and reception.
Do you have any suggestions on the best way to go about doing this? Should we look at churches first or get hotel room block first and pick a church around the hotel? Anyone have this issue?
Our wedding is October 2013 so I don’t even know how far in advance you can book hotel rooms either.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!!!!
Post # 3
venue will def matter.. but also check hotels that offer shuttles..this way the guests wont have to worry about driving..a lot of hotels even shuttle to and from other hotels- an they offer a competitive discount. shuttles are also great for the late night and those that plan to drink
Post # 4
I would always book the hotel close to the reception as they have to go to the reception anyway, so they could go back to the hotel first.
Plus it’s easier at the end of the night to get back. I’ve always found if works our best that way!
And you should be ok booking a year out 🙂
Post # 5
Find your church first. It can be difficult to schedule a wedding in a church where you, Fiance, or immediate family are not members (I’m guessing that’s the case since you said “a church” rather than “our” church, “the” church, etc.). You definitely want to work out your arrangements with the church first and fill in other decisions around that, since the church will also affect what time of day, how long of a gap you’ll have, maybe even how formal things will be as far as choosing your gown, flowers, etc. You can make “proximity to hotels” one of your criteria in looking for a church, but I would definitely lock in the church arrangements first and only then look at setting up hotel blocks, making reception arrangements, etc.
PS – many churches appreciate it, incidentally, when you take this approach. If you come in saying “We would like to get married here, these are the possible dates we are thinking of, what would work with your calendar?” it generally goes over much better than, “We are getting married on Date X and we want to schedule our wedding here at Y time. Can you fit us in?”
Post # 6
Thanks everyone for the advice!
@KCKnd2 – that’s great advice, but unfortunately, we already booked our venue since venues book very quickly in the area we were looking (NY, north NJ) I’m hoping the church will be understanding of our situation – my fiance and I are both in very good standing with our own parish but can’t get married there since it’s about an hour away from the reception venue. Like you said, I think we’re going to figure out the church next, then hotels.
Post # 7
@lambs379: If you have any ways of “pulling strings” to get into a church, now might be the time to use them! Is it a Catholic church? If your priest knows the priest of a church in the area and could contact him, write a letter on your behalf, etc. that could be helpful. If you have an aunt, a cousin, whatever, who is a parishioner there and could talk to the priest on your behalf, that could be helpful. Good luck!