Post # 1
I am in the process of picking two hotels to block rooms at. One will be within 3 miles of our reception location, and the other will be about 10 miles away, but in a cute, scenic town. The problem I have is that my parents are divorced and I don’t want any awkward hallway run-ins. (My mom talks endlessly about anything to anyone and my dads family has limited patience!) I don’t expect anyone to be uncivil, but I’d rather avoid the temptation.
Has anyone else planned like is? What did you do? I don’t want to recommend one hotel to each family because I know some will want to stay in the fun town.
Post # 3
@moose91: I kind of thought that part of the point of blocks was so that all the guests would be in rooms near each other so that they can hang out before/after the wedding? Maybe get a block at each hotel, and when your mom calls she can ask to be placed on a different floor?
Post # 4
Jeez, this can’t be fun! I’d let your parents know they both are being given the choice of two hotels and to pick the one they want to stay in. When you make a hotel block they almost always give you updated lists of names of those who’ve booked. If you happen to notice they booked the same hotel, you can call your room-block contact and explain that you have one request, that your parents be placed in rooms on total opposite sides/floors of the hotel.
That’s as much as I would do. I mean, really, adults should act as such especially on your wedding day! It’s not fair to put this added stress on your shoulders!
Post # 5
If you are truly looking to avoid people running into each other, then the only solution I can think of that would pretty much erase any such possibility is to assign one family side to each hotel.
Otherwise, I think you need to just put the information out there for each adult to decide on their own. The vast majority of people will realize they are in town for your big day and not start family arguments or other problems just because one person in a family is a talker. Seriously, as much as you might dislike someone, treating them like garbage during their daughter’s wedding isn’t exactly the way most people will express that dislike.
As a child of multiple divorces, I’ve learned that family members can handle these situations on their own. I think it’s nice you want to minimize any potential issues, but I think we tend to worry too much about these kinds of details when most people know how to behave.