Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married out of town for both of us. His childhood priest and my pastor will be officiating at the wedding. We will need them for the rehearsal and dinner Friday night and the wedding which is Saturday afternoon. Due to this we feel we should cover their hotel stay. When I asked my pastor and his wife (who is also the worship team leader which I’m on) if they were comfortable doing an out of town wedding (cause they usually leave weddings after the dinner/dessert) they said yes, I told them we’d cover their stay. A few weeks afterwards when fiance and I were talking to my pastor about something else and the wedding got brought up again he mentioned something about staying 2 nights (Friday and Saturday). Fiance only wants to cover Friday night cause they don’t HAVE to stay for Saturday night. What is proper? I feel bad telling them we’ll only be paying for one night.
Post # 3
What time is the wedding going until? If they would have to get home later than like 10 pm I think you should cover both. If not I think you can just tell him that you’re having budget restrictions coming up and you can only cover friday night or something.
Post # 4
I think the proper thing is to pay for both nights. How far along is the venue from their home town and how late is the wedding?
Post # 5
The wedding is from 2-3, the reception is from 5:30-11 (including cocktail hour). They are from my home town which is 1 hour and 45 minutes away.
Post # 6
@michelejosephine: With that long of a drive, I would definitely cover the second night.
Post # 7
Our wedding is 3 hours from where the pastor lives and not a great drive to do at night. He is going to be there w/his wife Friday (rehearsal) and Saturday (ceremony is at 5:30) and we are covering both nights plus giving him $200. I figure thats fair to cover gas and the premarital sessions he’s done for us….?
Post # 8
If the officiant is running the rehearsal then it is proper to cover both nights of his or her stay.