- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Ok Bees, here is my situation:
We are having a REALLY difficult time with hotels near our venue. I’ve actually searched through the Bee, and this seems to be a common problem for that area. Our reception is in Gloucester, Massachusetts, and it is a lovely beach/fishing town, great vacation spot. However, pretty much all the lodging options are: 1. Cheap beach motels and 2. Bed and breakfasts, many of them beach/nautical themed and most will NOT do room blocks. AT ALL. The closest chain hotel is at least a half hour away. There is ONE “real” hotel in that area (Rockport Inn & Suites), and it’s about 3 miles from the reception. It’s nice enough, has typical hotel amenities- pool, fitness room, vending machines, ice, etc.- and they have a conference room that we are renting to have our after party. We have it all night (can party till the sun comes up if we want), and we’re allowed to bring in all our own food, beverage, and they will set it all up for us. We do currently have rooms blocked off there, because it really was our only option.
Here’s the catch-
THEY WANT $230-250 PER NIGHT! And that IS the discounted block rate. This is not a luxury hotel by any stretch, and it’s not in a major metro area. We live in NYC, and that’s what I’d expect to pay for a night at a NICE hotel here, not for an ok hotel in a small beach town after Labor Day. Future Mother-In-Law was outraged, and as much as we can say that people are adults and can make their own decisions, it makes me sick to my stomach to ask our guests, especially our bridal party, ESPECIALLY FI’s 2 siblings with young children who both live ~90 minutes from the venue, to spend that kind of money. I just CAN’T.
We were visiting MA this weekend, and took a trip out to show my sister/MOH the locations, since she was in school when we booked everything. My mother took a wrong turn, and we got lost going through a kinda scary wooded road. And as we drive up this hill and emerge from the wilderness, there is this giant, gorgeous, PURPLE, Victorian sitting across the road.
- It’s an inn. (CASTLE Manor Inn)
- It was just restored and re-opened in May after years of being closed.
- It has views of the water/river, and smells like ocean.
- it’s 5 minutes from the venue
- It has a beautiful little garden out front, a wrap around porch, and a giant tent-covered deck/3 season porch out back.
- It has a full restaurant inside, and we could potentially host both our rehearsal dinner AND farewell brunch either in the restaurant or on the deck.
- It has a grand Victorian staircase looking up to stained glass windows where we could have our first looks photos.
And most importantly- the most expensive room (the bridal suite) would be about $160/night, other rooms ranging from about $120-150/night.
The rooms were a little old-fashioned, and the beds weren’t the softest in the world, but it’s just about everything I want in the world. I could almost cry writing this because….
They won’t let us book it (yet).
Because of the deck space, they can host smaller (up to 100-120 person) weddings on the tented deck, and so they’re holding off until end of October/early November before booking anything that’s not a wedding for next year. So if somebody comes in and wants to have a wedding any day of my weekend, we’re screwed, we’re can’t have it. There is nothing I can do. I just have to wait, and if somebody wants a wedding, that’s it.
I’m trying really hard to not be upset prematurely, trying to breathe, and release it, and trust that there was a reason that we got lost and found this place. That god/the universe/divine intervention brought us there on purpose, and that everything will work out.
If anyone has any advice, thoughts, words of wisdom or comfort, or just generally wants to pump me up, I would love the support. Please send me thoughts, prayers, juju, magic, crossed fingers/toes- I will take it all!