Post # 1
The FI was talking to his mom last night, and mentioned that we were going to get a block of rooms set aside for our wedding, for our guests coming in from out-of-state. She then asked if we were paying for them.
It’s well known to both of our families that me and the FI live on an incredibly tight budget… but her older sons are millionaires. So she often expects my FI to treat her/spoil her like her other sons do.
Question 1 is: How do I go about wording the fact that we aren’t paying for peoples hotels on the invitation, but that we’ve just set aside rooms for them?
One of his older brothers never stays in anything “lesser” than a Hilton. Well, in my hometown in upstate NY, the closest Hilton is 45 mins away from my wedding site. The hotels are kinda… shabby. They’re certainly clean, but nothing fancy-pants (Comfort Inn, Holiday Inn, etc).
Question 2 is: We’re providing a taxi bus from the hotel that we’ve chosen, to the wedding (and back,) for our guests; but if his brother chooses another to stay in another hotel (like the Hilton that’s super far away,) do we have to make separate accommodations for him?
Post # 3
I would say something along the lines of “A special, discounted room rate at XYZ Inn is available until (place date here.) Please mention the Moriarty-Doe wedding when making your reservations.”
You do not need to make any special transportation accommodations for anyone who is attending your wedding. The fact that you are providing taxi bus service for guests staying at the inn where you have reserved a room block is quite nice for those guests. However, you do not need to provide alternative arrangements for others.
Post # 4
Ditto to @Brielle:
I would never expect a Bride & Groom to pay for my hotel!
Post # 5
It took me a while to get the wording right, as we also set aside a block of rooms – but were not covering the cost. I don’t think our guests expected us to – at least I hope not. Here is how I worded it:
“We invite you to stay with us at the Hotel Name in City Name. When booking to make reservations please mention the Bride/Groom Wedding Block to receive a rate of $$/night.”
In my opinion, if his brother chooses to stay in a different hotel – he should not expect you guys to take care of his transportation. Just because he has expensive taste, does not mean you should have to pay to indulge him.
Post # 6
@Brielle: Thank you! I love the way that is worded.
Post # 7
@peche: Yeah I didn’t think anyone was going to expect it. I was kinda pissed when she assumed we were, though. And I know his older brother is probably going to seek out a fancy hotel for himself… *shrugs* he’ll have to just find his own way, lol. Thanks for help with the wording! 🙂
Post # 8
No one else is going to expect you to pay for their lodging. On our wedding website, I wrote that hotel room blocks are available at two hotels and then made sections for each hotel that detailed how far they are from the wedding venue and how long the group rate will be available.