1. Do you wash your spouses clothes or does he/she?
We share laundry, when the basket is full and one of us has time, we do it. It ends up being split pretty evenly. I do however, have a separate basket for my delicates which he doesn’t do, he just doesn’t grasp the whole separate colors, gentle cycle stuff.
2. Do you share cooking during the week, or are you the only one who cooks?
We both cook. We both enjoy it and are pretty good at it. Again, just depends who’s home that night and has the time. Our favorite is when we’re both home and can cook together.
3. Do you share cleaning chores, or are you the only one who cleans?
We have a cleaning service come in once per month, they do the heavy scrubbing of bathrooms, kitchen etc. The two of us keep things tidy and vacuumed in between. Generally we clean up after ourselves and clean the kitchen after cooking, but if we get behind and it starts getting messy, again whoever is home more that week picks up the slack.
4. Do you work full-time?
Yes, I’m an ER doc plus I’m full time in a Master’s program. I work odd hours and am often gone in the evenings. I’m usually not home 4-5 evenings per week and have work/class about 50-70 hours per week depending on the week.
5. Does your spouse work full-time?
Yes, he’s an active duty marine, although he’s been in 17 years so at this point he has an 8-5 desk job. He also goes to school part-time and is gone 2-3 evenings per week. Plus he has a metal working business on the side.
I feel very fortunate, the splitting of chores has never been a fight for us. It was always very natural. We often work opposite hours and we both just want to make life easier for the other person when they’re busy so we pick up the slack. It works really well for us. When I have a bad week at work he does almost everything and when he has a lot of orders for signs I pick up the slack so he can get stuff done in the garage.