- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My fiance and I just bought a house and now we are having serious battles on home decor. I’m open to different styles, colors, etc. and just want whatever makes the room look bigger, because it is a tiny house. He hates all decor, colors, patterns, frills, ribons, bows, flowers, stripes, and accesories that aren’t 100% absolutely necessary. If he had it his way, every wall would be plain white with bare minimum furniture (all plain black of course) and no pictures, no pillows, no rugs, no color…nothing. By that description, it sounds like he would prefer a more modern look, but NO. I wouldn’t mind if we went for a modern look, but he doesn’t even like that. I call his style “hospital room chic” because he really would prefer everything to look like a plain boring hospital room.
Since moving into the house, I have had to beg and plead for him to allow me to buy ONE throw cushion for the couch… he won’t even let me buy two throw cushions because he says that throw cushions are tacky! I also had to beg and plead for him to allow me to buy rugs. He wanted absolutely no rugs throughout the entire house (which is all hardwood). We’ve had the same argument about curtains and blinds. The man didn’t even want curtains or blinds….. just nothingness on the windows so that all the world can see us walking around in our house.
When I do finally convince him to allow me to buy normal things that EVERYONE has in their home (like throw cushions, blinds, curtains, rugs), the item must be one solid color and usually that color has to be either white, black, or gray.
This isn’t even about money, because I’ve asked him is it that he doesn’t want us to spend the money on the things and the answer was no. He really just hates all decor and thinks that if something is not practicle or usable then it shouldn’t be there and it is “tacky”.
I really don’t know what to do. Usually couples compromising on home decor goes something along the lines of “you like red. I like blue. Let’s get green instead.” BUT for us, compromise is turning into “I want a yellow rug and curtains. You want no rugs or curtains. Lets get a plain white rug to match our plain white walls and plain white comforter but not have any curtains.”
He also has trouble understanding that you don’t just pick items you like. You think of a style and put everything together into a theme that actually matches and goes together. He also refuses to comprehend that certain colors, shapes, furniture placements, etc, make the room look bigger. How do I get him to lighten up? I want this house to be a home and not feel like a hospital room!