(Closed) House first then….

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We did it ! it has been a year since we bought the house and we did some major renovations that cut into our budget .. Although we have now picked out our stone and are having the setting made custom and then he will “hang on to it” …sooooo who KNOWS but I know we have a ring . Not sure how much that helps – but thats our situation πŸ™‚ 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Ok. I know my situation is a little different buuuuuuut I closed on a house this last June. It’s my house, my mortgage, his name is no where on the paperwork. I told him that I wouldn’t go into 200K worth of debt with someone if they weren’t going to marry me. But he still wanted to feel like he was a part of the purchase so I let him put some money towards the closing costs. If we break up, I write him a check for what he put in.

But I know what you mean, it’s like people left and right are getting engaged or married. Especially here on the boards. When I 1st joined the ladies waited around for quite some time before their proposal story popped up. Nowadays I’m seeing stories within 50 posts. Sigh. πŸ™‚ I don’t think my guy is actively doing anything to change our situation at the moment but buying the house I think did drive home the fact that I was going to live my life with or without him and he’s since become more involved in our relationship. Who knows.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

we do! the house is in his name, but for all purposes it’s OUR house. we’ve been living together for 2 1/2 years now. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We are in the process of buying a lot to build a house on, but since I KNOW we can’t live together before we get married, its making waiting a little bit easier. Every time we get an estimate of how long a house will take to build and the date they can start on it, I use it to try to figure out when he’s gonna ask me! I haaaaaaaate waiting!!!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s how my Darling Husband and i did it – we bought a house in July 2008, and he proposed in August 2010. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We bought our house in June of 2009 and he proposed May 31st of 2010.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Like a few of the PP we have a house together, but it’s in only one of our names. We lived together for 2 years in our house before he FINALLY proposed. Hang in there! It’ll happen!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We bought our house together last March – hes only just started to pay for a ring. So I guess within 2 years of moving in together we would be engaged to be married not long after!

I wouldn’t do it any other way though – my cousin has just got engaged *sigh, only a year into their relationship* but they can’t afford a house so have put their wedding on on hold until summer 2013.

We have a home already thats ours, a wedding doesnt have to cost the earth and who knows, we could be hitched before they even get a mortgage deposit together? I can only hope….

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We bought a house together in January of this year (It is only in his name as I was still going though financial issues as a result of divorcing a irresponsible man…i digress).  We are not engaged yet but are planning on it happening before the end of the year.  We started looking in Nov of last year for a home to raise my 3 yr old little girl and start a family of our own.  I hope he doesnt make you wait too much longer and an engagement is coming soon!

 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Buying a house with someone i’m not married to is basically the only thing I was actually a “traditional” stickler about.

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Technically I own it, my name’s on the title, but we live together and it’s ours.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldnt commit to the house with him unless he made the offical commitment to me first.  I would not have sign with him on the house with him since the downpayment was entirely from me if we werent engaged.  And he didnt want to move in to “my” house and not be part of it and “pay me rent” or help pay if he didnt have a part in it.  So we got engaged last May, bought our house in Aug, and just got married last month.

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