- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
An old university friend of mine and Fiance has just moved back from a year abroad – she is moving in with her boyfriend later in the year, but she can’t stay with him right now as he lives with his parents and there’ss no room. We said she could stay with us as she’s not here too much over the next few months – she has lots of holidays and trips planned.
My one request was that she came from the end of May because I have exams in the first part of this month and need to be revising quietly at home most days. She said she was really stuck on a place to stay and if we let her come early she promised she’d stay out of my way – so I agreed.
Well – she is here and it is lovely to see her – she is really a lovely friend.
BUT. After 3 days, she has barely left the apartment. She just seems to sit around all day surfing the web, reading etc – she isnt being noisy, but it’s a little distracting.
Here’s the crunch point – during my exams I get a bit slack tidying up after myself in the day – I tend to stick my breakfast cereal bowl and my plate from lunch in the sink and then I wash them up after dinner. About an hour ago she left to go out and have dinner with her boyfriend, and said she would be staying at his overnight. I said ‘Bye’ and carried on working. Then just now, I went into the kitchen to start on dinner, and saw that she has just left her dirty bowl, plate, cutlery and several mugs/glasses on the side next to mine.
Now, maybe she is just copying what I was doing and thought it was okay if I was doing it, but surely any houseguest would clean up after themselves, especially if they are then going out for the night? I actually felt really put out as not only is she hanging around but she is now creating extra work for me during a stressful period.
I can’t decide whether to:
a) wash it up with my stuff and dont say anything, hoping it wont happen again
b) wash it up and say something to her when she gets in tomorrow
c) leave it and hope she takes a hint when she gets back (though she might not identify it as her stuff).
Do you think I’m right to be put out?! Or have I just got an exam/bride brain combination and need to chill? Sorry for venting!