(Closed) House hunting…How can you stand it?

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Ugh, I can’t help being overly excited and emotional, we’ve bought 3 houses and I’ve been crazy-attached every time.

Take some deep breaths and know that you are dealing with a bank, so they are going to be very unemotional about the whole thing.  They probably also won’t respond as quickly as a typical seller.  What ever you can do to cause less hassle to the bank, the stronger your offer will be, like buying your own stove later.

Good luck and keep breathing deep, I feel your anxiety! 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so bad at this. Our realtor took us to see a gorgeous and perfect house that we both fell in love with, and I was decorating it in my head, but before our financing could come through, it sold. There was another that was a foreclosure that was awesome, but our realtor was on crutches and off work for three weeks and it ended up selling. The sad part is that we’ve driven by there since it sold and it still looks abandoned.

Also, I’m sitting here picking out the improvements we’d make to yet another house I’ve fallen in love with.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Wow… you are putting way too much energy into a house that isn’t yours. Trust me, after falling in love with 6 houses and having failed contracts on 3 of them, emotional detachment was easy. Walking away from my 1st house love without offering (it was a clear money pit even though it was awesome) was hell. Walking away from our first contract (love #2) based on inspection results was hell. Walking away from love #3 was getting easier. Walking away from contract #2 (love #4) was a breeze. If you do it enough, it gets easy, and then you worry that the house you like isn’t right because you just can’t feel love anymore. But don’t worry, because you will be a pro at that point and your logical mind will lead you in the right direction. And then when you finally get the keys and allow yourself to feel again, you’ll be all misty eyed and swoony because it’s the perfect house and it’s total love, and it’s time to bust out the photoshop and get to work!

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I definitely got emotional and attached to our house before we got our accepted offer. The way I see it, if I don’t love a home enough to be upset about potentially losing it, it isn’t the home I should be offering to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on.

You just have to keep your fingers crossed that all goes well and when it doesn’t, spend your brief time upset and move on to the next opportunity.   But I totally get becoming attached!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Nellular:  Fiance got super emotional and attached in this process because he hates our apartment and the lease was almost up.  I told him to hold his horses.  We live in a city!! Something else will open up.

Our set up feel through when the appraisal was 14,000 over what we agreed on and the seller wouldn’t budge. (This was also the same week I lost my job and his dog finished destroying my computer.)  Then he was lammenting about how there was nothing left in our neighborhood and then he went crazy and tried to shop in the ghetto for so so houses lucky I showed him the crime demographics and he finally relented!

It can be a roller coaster of awful.  I say don’t get too attached, take it slow and don’t rush into anything.  A house is something you can’t unload easily so you have to be really sure before you commmit.  And get a good realtor, at some point I figured out ours was a dud and let Fiance figure it out. (Ours just wanted a high commission I think yours wants you to just buy something or anything.) I put him in charge of everything to so he really got a sense of it all. I was too busy trying to keep/find a job and still am. 🙁 

We are taking a break from houses and we (reluctantly for him) stayed in this apartment.  We will revisit it when the time is right.

ETA: Best of luck to you!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Congratulations! I hope the inspection goes well. We’re right around the same point you are. We had the inspection, now onto the appraisal! So exciting 😀

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I go about homebuying in a completely different way than most people.  I start with a list that includes every single thing I want in a home.  Like a dream list.  That way there aren’t too many options for me to see.

When I go in too broad….. that’s when I get confused.

I bought a house one time and after I gave my “demands” to the realtor and he put them all in the MLS listing comptuer…. He said “you may have to scale back, there are only 3 houses in the entire Houston area that meet that criteria”.  I said “great- let’s knock it out on Saturday because I only want 1”.  It was super easy.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Good luck with the  close! Fiance and I are supposed to close on our house tomorrow, but we are waiting on our underwriter to officially approve our loan, so I know how stressful the process can be! Hope everything goes smoothly and that your dream home will make it worth the wait!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

congratulations! i’m going through the process right now– inspection turned up A LOT and we went back and forth several times over what they were going to do and what they refused to do. not closing for 2 weeks and i still feel nervous!

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