(Closed) house in the future or dream honeymoon now?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
14486 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It may not be the most responsibile decision, but I think I would take the dream honeymoon.  When push comes to shove, you’ll do what you need to get your ducks lined up for a house when you really want or need it.  A vacation is something that could so easily be pushed off time and time again (especially after you havea  house and all the expenses that come with it), and before you know it, years have passed by and you still havent’ done the dream vacation.  I’d take the once in a lifetime trip now while you can.

Post # 4
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Welcome 🙂

What’s your financial situation like?  Meaning, how much debt to the two you of you have and how are you paying for the wedding?

I would register for things you want/need (not the traditional things that registry consultants will tell you to register for).  DH and I both lived on our own, so we had basic things, but there were things we wanted (like nice knives, pots/pans, vacuum, wine glasses, etc.).  So, we registered for those things only.  The people who will give you cash, will give you cash.  You’ll likely end up with a mix of each.  I wouldn’t suggest going to route of ask but don’t ask.

re: honeymoon or dream vacation – if you can afford it, I’d pick the honeymoon.  We paid for our wedding ourselves and there was no extra money to take our dream honeymoon, so we just did something luxe, but local.  If it ends up you can’t afford it, you can do something like that – where it’s a fraction of the cost, but still feels like a honeymoon.  I often wonder if we’ll ever take that ‘dream’ trip – there seems like there is always a big ticket expense that’s on our ‘wish’ list.  

Post # 5
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

What me and my Fiance decided to do, since I can’t travel out of country (visa problems), we decided to save up for a down payment on a house. There is a wedding registry out there called uponourstar.com which lets your guests give you money towards items you put on there instead of actually giving you the item. I think its a pretty swell idea.

After I become a permanent resident, then we are going to Europe and have a honeymoon which might be in like 3 years time. But at least we will have a house to come back to.

That being said, if you really want to go on your dream vacation and you don’t mind having to wait a little longer for your house, I say do it.

Post # 6
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Dream honeymoon now – you only live once 🙂

Post # 7
38 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011 - Rosehall Resort, Montego Bay, Jamaica

What about instead of registering, set up a honeymoon registry? Your guests can pay apart of your honeymoon. Ive seen this done so many times and always seems to be a nice guesture.

Post # 8
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d do the honeymoon.  You have to live your life a little, you know?  I would do a honeymoon registry and the REI registry.  You can’t do a shower without gifts… I don’t think anyone would give money for that.

Post # 9
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’d think about your financial situation and earning potential.  If the wedding contribution to your house fund isn’t going to make a huge difference in when you’ll be able to buy a house (i.e. only move it up a couple months), but would make the difference now between dream honeymoon and weekend at the Best Western by the airport…then go for the honeymoon.  Either way, you should register for some tangible gifts for showers and whatnot.  But they don’t need to be vacuum cleaners and blenders – they can be camping supplies, tools, etc.

Post # 11
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would, and did, go with the house instead of big fancy honeymoon. My parents gifted us a large amount of money for the whole wedding, and said do what you want with it. We spent about half on the wedding, a tiny bit on the honeymoon, and almost a year later we were able to put an offer on a house. We could never have done that if we didn’t save up that money, and since I’m pregnant and really wanting to get out of this townhouse before the baby comes, I have no regrets! We were still able to have an awesome honeymoon. It wasn’t a “dream vacation,” but I figure we have our whole lives to do that.

Post # 12
374 posts
Helper bee


Post # 13
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I will go responsible here, as a homeowner I say the House, right now our house that we own and rent out is basically an added income. It is setting us up, it is an investment in itself. I can’t believe I spent 1100/month for over 3 years on rent, it is such a waste! You can go on a Honeymoon later, if you desire the Honeymoon do a quick weekend getaway somewhere.

I have been on many fabulous trips the memories last a lifetime, but the security of having or owning a home means alot to me. It also goes back to your situation and our debt….

Best of Luck!! I know its a hard decision but making a HOME is what marriage is all about!

Post # 14
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would go for the house. you can also take a dream vacation later in life. for now, you can just go to a bed and breakfast for a weekend for your honeymoon, or even do a staycation and just relax.

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