(Closed) House or E-ring/wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think I would take into consideration how old you are, how you view your current living situation (cramped apartment or just not satisfied with your current house?), and how soon you plan on having kids and starting a family.  If it were me personally, I would choose a new house over a one day party any day.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would take the house and do a smaller wedding.  Who cares what they think when you’re sitting in your nice new perfect house.  There’s no need to compete with a past wedding… I mean, thats over and done with.  Obviously the wedding and party and all the money didnt help the marriage. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

get the house! do a small, diy wedding- or even better elope.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think a wedding can happen anyday, but I wouldn’t put off the opportunity to set up your house, as there will always be something that costs money that will delay your plans further (like do you want children, for example?)

I firmly believe a couple should be settled somewhere before marrying, otherwise it will just strain you as you will want to live together, but will have nowhere to live, where as getting married, you could put that after building the house and it will be an objective for you both after moving in 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would say build your dream house and have a small wedding. At the end of the day you’ll still be married and you’ll have your dream house to go home to.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We chose a smaller wedding bc we were building our home. In the end it was worth it to us over anything else.

Post # 9
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3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

If I felt very solid in the relationship, and I wanted a house, and I had to choose, my priorities would be:

1. house first 

2. small wedding or low budget wedding with a temporary placeholder ring

3. nice ring upgrade later, when we could afford it 

Post # 10
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8146 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

finish the house and have the wedding in your backyard! thats what we are doing 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Who says it has to be a 90 K wedding? Have a small wedding, and then finish the house. 

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

A wedding lasts a day. I would pick the security of having a house first and still having a smaller more economical wedding. How much he spent on his last marriage shouldn’t be any your concern. This is about your life together and future. Trying to compare your present circumstances to the ghost of a failed relationship if waste of energy.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

e-ring, then house, then a small wedding reception with family and close friends in house 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Buy a house first! It is more important as a wedding can happen any time at any budget. Plus i think it is a good idea to live together before marriage.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

House or no house spending $90k on a ring is just stupid, did not help him any.

Biy the house!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

House. Small wedding. There are so many lovely small weddings. If I had it to do over again I’d give married at the courthoue in Detroit and invite immediate family to a very nice restaurant for a fantastic meal and drinks.

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