House vs. Wedding – What to save for?

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 48
4260 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Any wedding that I could not pay for within 12 months of saving would be off the table for me.  For us, that meant eloping and a pretty great honeymoon.   That was roughly $1000/month while not touching our down payment, and still being able to live how we like.  A house is way more important than a wedding, for me anyway, and I did not want to take any more money away from our future than we needed to. 

Post # 49
1062 posts
Bumble bee

HOUSE – 100% 

Post # 50
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

akshali2000 :  Buy a condo, justto get into the rental market.  Something small.  Get married the way you want.  Save up for a house

MY Fiance and I are trying to buy a house right now, and then get married  after.  The housing prices right now are rising a lot so we wantto get into the market before it gets worse.  Hoping for a house, willing to compromise with a town house though

Post # 51
355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We got the house and are now getting married in it 🙂 we have small families though so it’s a different situation. 

Buying a house doesn’t always take that long just fyi. The right house happened to be on the market when we started looking, so from finding the listing to getting moved in took under 2 months for us. We’re kinda obsessed with our house and it’s basically the theme of our wedding now.

Post # 53
21 posts

Obviously a house is a better investment, but I understand wanting a nice wedding too!!! I think you guys should opt for a small chic wedding, but no it doesn’t have to be just a court house wedding. Also, I wouldn’t invest in a house until you are actually engaged with a date set or actually married.

Post # 54
3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

akshali2000 :  oh phew, I was thinking if 300+ is small then yes you’ll definitely have budgetary problems!! With your revised numbers I think it would definitely be possible to sort out a small wedding compromise and maybe save for both. A house is clearly more important in the long run but you don’t want to always be sad about not having a wedding.

Post # 57
8324 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

akshali2000 : 

Well I’m 100% with your Fiance on this, I think a house trumps a big party anytime. Plus as a pp implied, wait too long and you may not be able to afford a house at ll  !  

The wedding is about the joining in marriage, not the rest of it .  “but I’d be heartbroken to do this”  isn’t  really so. Heartbreak is for much bigger things than having a modest wedding celebration!

Post # 58
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We looked at it this way, if one of us (heaven forbid) died suddenly..would we regret not having got married or not having bought a house.

Made our decision pretty clear.

That said, we did not want a big wedding so we could afford the wedding much sooner than a house.

Post # 59
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I wouldn’t sacrifice having a wedding, because you (ideally) only get one chance to have that experience.  So even if it’s a very small 2pm wedding with h’orderves instead of a meal, you should have your wedding!  I would just make those changes so that it’s affordable so you can get a house soon too!

Post # 60
55 posts
Worker bee


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