Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’ve been coming to this site for the last 2 months since I got engaged and finally decided to post my first question for you all. My fiance and I decided to have a small intimate wedding at our house with immediate family and a 4-5 good friends. Probably no more than 20-25ppl max.
Since it is such a small wedding, a bridal party doesn’t make sense. I have heard of something called “house party” where you can ask ppl you are close to, to take part in some festivities, but they are not bridesmaids. I know my sister has an opinion about needing to keep things traditional, but that’s not what I want. How can I keep my sisters (both of them) feel special on that day, but not have to give in and have bridesmaids or MOH? I really want to keep things simple, especially since my fiance will not have any groomsmen or a best man.
Another question, since the wedding is at our house with just family, do I still walk down the aisle with my Dad? If so, should we have music playing? Also, do I hide out from our guests until it is time for the ceremony or can I meet and greet them as they arrive? I’m confused on how it works.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
You don’t have to have bridesmaids or groommen at all. I only had two flower girls in my first wedding and that was to honor my stepdaughter and my baby sister who would have been upset had I not made them flower girls.
WHen my mom was married at home she did the same. Her and my stepdad’s only attendants were my stepsister and myself (unless you count my baby sister who was in my mom’s belly.)
As for traditional stuff like walking down the aisle, it’s up to you. If you want your dad to walk you down the aisle then do it. With my mom’s wedding she met with and greeted guests before the ceremony and then she walked down the aisle (floorspace between the hallway and the fireplace in the living room) with my stepdad, my stepsister, and I waiting for her at the fireplace. The nice thing about home weddings is that you can be as casual or as formal as you want.
Post # 4
Thanks, and you are right about doing it as casual or formal as you like it. I’m just afraid of hurting ppl’s feelings, but honestly don’t want to cater to their opinion on what a wedding should be!
Post # 5
we were married on my parents’ front porch and didn’t have any bridesmaids or groomsmen – there wasn’t enough room for them 🙂
plus, since we were having a small, backyard wedding, choosing just wouldn’t have been fair. we posted something on our wedding website about our decision not to have a wedding party:
“we chose not to have a wedding party – not because our friends and family aren’t the most important and special group of people on earth – but because we want our guests to be able to sit back and truly be “present” for this ever-so-sacred occasion.
in a sense, you are our wedding party – and you didn’t even have to buy a dress or rent a tux to be included!
rather than worrying about the details of the day – hairdos, seating charts and toasts – we want you to have the freedom to truly enjoy each moment.
don’t worry, we may be skipping the wedding party, but there will still be plenty of PARTY to be had :)”
on a completely different note, i was Maid/Matron of Honor in my best friend’s wedding, and instead of having a huge bridal party, she designated close friends and family as witnesses. they worse a corsage, but didn’t stand up front with the rest of us. it was a nice way to honor the important people in her life.