(Closed) Housewife vs. Stay at home mom

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think the difference is that a housewife doesn’t have kids and doesn’t work, while a stay at home mom does have kids and doesn’t work. That could be why that article said a housewife puts her husband first, which would make sense if she didn’t have children. 

Post # 4
7900 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think of it kind of as the stay at home mom is at home because of her children and her “job” is primarily to raise and attend to those children, whereas the housewife stays at home just generally, and I think both can apply to the same woman at different times of in different capacities.

Post # 5
5543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I always thought it was having kids and being home verses not having kids and being home.

Post # 6
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I thought it was just a time thing? Like, I never here ANYONE saying they are a “housewife” now. That seems very retro. I guess I thought that term just went out of vogue and was replaced by stay at home mom or stay at home wife.


Post # 7
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve never used the word housewife, as I find it a bit archaic of a term (kind of like waiter as opposed to server).  Then again, it may depend on geographic location.  I have always said Stay-At-Home Mom.  It does make sense that a housewife would be without children and a Stay-At-Home Mom would have children.  I guess I’ve never thought about it. 

Post # 8
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Really there’s no difference in the role of either in the family. The term “housewife” is an older term and considered antiquated by some, as it implies the woman is married to the house (i.e. Defines her in context of her relationship to the house); “stay at home mom” is more modern, and generally the more socially acceptable term. No matter what term you use, the woman would not have full-time employment outside the home, and would spend her time caring for the family.

Post # 9
233 posts
Helper bee

Personally, I’m leaning toward a stay at home fiancée gig! 🙂 I am sick of working! 🙂

Post # 10
389 posts
Helper bee

A stay at home mom is a woman who is the primary caretaker of the children, not working a day job, but dedicates herself to her children and husband.

A housewife is essentially the same thing, but the term has changed since the 50’s whereby it became an insult to refer to a woman as a housewife after the 70’s.  Staying at home is a choice now, not mandatory (as in the 50’s) and a woman can choose to stay home and take care of her family, or choose to go back to work, college, work full time or part time.  In other words, women now have a choice to live their life to the fullest where once it was not possible.  

Post # 11
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

dont think there is a difference

Post # 12
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@chasesgirl:  This is what I thought too. 

Post # 13
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I see the difference as putting the home first over putting the children and family first.


My fiance always says that he will work hard so that I can stay home and educate our children, not so I can keep a pristine house. Does he expect me to clean up and prepare food, of course. But he prefers that I focus on the children and our family over scrubbing tiles and baking bread (we eat low carb anyway 😉 )

Post # 14
13095 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Personally, I see a housewife as someone who doesn’t work outside the home and doesn’t have kids.

And a stay-at-home mom is someone who doesn’t work outside the home while raising her children.

Post # 15
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Mrs.KMM:  that’s what I think too.

I guess technically a housewife could have children, but I usually don’t use the term like that. I just say that I want to not work and be a “stay at home puppy Mom”.

Post # 16
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m neither a Stay-At-Home Mom or a houswife.  However, I’m not sure I like the “doesn’t work” part.  Stay-At-Home Mom and housewives typically work (and very hard I might add), just not outside the home.  I think the difference is that 1 has kids and the other doesn’t.

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