(Closed) Housewife/Stay at home mom with a college degree…. What's your take?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Would you be willing to become a housewife after earning a degree?

    I would not mind at all!

    I would rather die!

    I would do it if it was necessary

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee

    @dawn_of_thedead:  “I strongly believe that women’s liberation is all about having the choice and not being forced to fit into a certain role.

    +1.

    I will be a Stay-At-Home Mom with a degree and I think it’s nobody’s business but mine and my husbands.

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t think Mrs. Obama counts as a Stay-At-Home Mom 🙂 I’m sure her daily life is much more about work than domesticity.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Michelle Obama isn’t exactly picking up Cheerios and changing nappies all day. People should do whatever work they find most meaningful and fulfilling, if they are fortunate enough to be able to. 

    Every other topic on this site seems to be about shitting on women. Why is this I wonder?

    Post # 21
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I have a BA and am almost finished my masters degree. I plan on becoming a stay at home mum when I have children (in about 10 years, haha).
    I need a masters for my job.

    I think I would find being a ‘housewife’ with no children would be a waste of my education though.

    Post # 22
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @SnurfMurph86:  I dont think that was OP’s intent and nobody has talked negatively about Michelle Obama nor anyone’s decision of being a Stay-At-Home Mom.

    Post # 23
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wouldn’t necessarily see it as a waste of an education, and I personally do not frown on anyone being a Stay-At-Home Mom. My sister has a bachelor’s degree, and a master’s degree, and her husband is in his third year of residency, so she will be just fine money-wise once he’s out of school. 

    She was torn on the idea of it, but truthfully, her masters is in education, and she couldn’t find a job where she was living, while he was in medical school, so they made the decision, since daycare was so expensive. 

    I think it varies person to person. I doubt I could do it, because I am a worker-bee. I LOVE working, and having time to “myself” while I’m at work. That being said, I can’t WAIT to have children, and although I’d love to be at home with them all the time, I don’t think it’s a job I’m really cut out for. My sister busts her ever-lovin’ ass, and she’s very organized, a great teacher, and a good disciplinarian, so when I see that, I think, “shoot…ain’t NO way could I do that full time!” 

    I truly, truly respect stay-at-home moms and dads, just like I respect teachers…I would be so stressed all the time, and just couldn’t do it! 

     

    Judgers, go ahead and judge! 

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    And, comparing Michelle Obama to a Stay-At-Home Mom is HILARIOUS. Yes, she is a mom. No, she doesn’t *technically* have a job. But seriously…that woman’s schedule is probably more packed than anyone posting on here. And I think she does a good job raising the kids too, I mean, who really knows, but they seem kinda normal. 

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have a Master’s Degree, and I’d love to be a Stay-At-Home Mom if it worked out.  It probably won’t because I live in a ridiculously expensive area, but I don’t think having earned a degree should have any bearing over my choices. 

    Post # 26
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    People contribute to the world in different ways.  We needs great mothers, we need educated mothers.  I am pro- college-degree-attaining no matter what you plan to do with the rest of your life- maybe even especially if you stay home with children.  Everyone deserves education and it helps women (and men) feel more confident and secure -even if it is not put to use in a “job” outside the home- it adds to who you are and being an educated person is never a negative.

    There is more value to an education than having a job or earning potential.

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @missweatherlove:  +1 Agreed – comparing Michelle Obama to a stay at home mom is a joke.

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t have a degree technically, but I’m an RN(diploma program…took the same test as those with their BSNs, I just got out of school quicker).  Growing up seeing my mom(stay at home mom) be so dependent on my father, just made me more determined to never be in that situation.  Even if I was married to someone really wealthy, I would still work.  Would I work full time? Likely not.  But I would work part time to have my own money coming in(even if it was just money I used for fun money).  Plus…I worked hard to become a nurse, you need to work so many hours a year to keep your nursing license current.

     

    In that situation that I ever won the lottery I would quit my job and find a part time nursing job(one that I basically work like 2 times a month whenever I want) and then I would use my nursing skills and go travel on medical missiontrips with my church.   

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @gelaine22:  I am more or less referring to the content of the article which gives the First Lady a hard time for not using her Harvard degree, not the OP, but interpret as you wish.

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think being a stay at home mother is a full-time, hard ass job and therefore I would never frown upon a woman with a degree deciding to stay at home with her children.

    However..(and I’m sorry to those that are SAHW’s), I do sort of judge those women who have degrees, are capable of gaining employment, and choose to stay at home.  I feel like it’s perpetuting some outdated idea that once married, we’re reliant on men and therefore dont’ do anything but stay home and cook and clean.  Granted, I’m sure they’re doing other things but I feel like it’s fuel to a fire for some ultra-conservative ideas that some people still hold.

    Women are just as capable, smart (if not more), and strong as men and I feel like we unfortunately still need to prove that.

    Post # 31
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    The judgement of women in both directions needs to stop.  It is often not a choice whether a woman stays home with her kids, anyway, but going to work or choosing to work does not make someone a bad mother.  If she does choose to stay home with her kids, that does not make her less of a womyn (spelling intentional).  

    I went to college and then I went to graduate school.  I place a high value on education.  Now I live in an area that does not.  I HATE IT.  So, I look forward to being judged for my decision, in the future, to go back to work after having children.  My fiance’s brother told me that women who go back to work after having children value their careers over their children.  

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