- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
I’ve been an on/off again Stay-At-Home Wife since Fiance and I met, mainly due to me having unstable employement. Our plan has always been for me to be a PART-TIME Stay-At-Home Wife so I’ve been bouncing in/out of jobs trying to find something that paid enough and fit into our schedule/lifestyle. I have one now and things are going well. We plan to have kids and although I’ll take my mat leave, I’ll return to work, but probably less hours – maybe 4 instead of the current 5 I’m working.
Where did you meet your friends? I’ve had the same group of friends for years, but lately I’ve decided I’m ready to meet new ones more in tune with my immediate and future lifestyle. I’m pretty active and play a lot of sports so most of my socialization comes from there. The rest occurs during events: birthdays, NYE, etc. I’ll most likely meet any future friends this way or when I’m out doing my thing: nails, hair, grocery shopping, etc.
How often do you see them? 2-3 times per week at our scheduled team games, but rarely do I socialize during the week, unless it’s to meet up early with a specific person to hit up the mall or whatever. Once a month or so an event pops up. I’ve been meaning to put more effort into this, but I”m too focused on work, the wedding planning and losing weight.
Does your lack of a job ever cause tensions in friendships? A couple of my friends are real go getters and career oriented, but more or less unsuccessful so they’ve been a bit jealous that I have more or equal to them and work 1/4 of the time. A few have been unsupportive with my wish to be a part-time Stay-At-Home Wife, but others have been behind me.
Also how do you handle finances with your partner? 70:30. I pick up one big bill and a few random little ones, but I buy the majority of the stuff for the house. Due to this split, I tend to always have enough money for the things that I want so I’m rarely left asking for a wife allowance although it has happened, haha.
How do you do gifts for each other? I surprise my Fiance, but that’s because I’m a good gift giver. He doesn’t think of himself much whereas he knows exactly what I want because I already have it in the Amazon cart or on hold at the store. I’m easy to shop for. I hate surprises.
What about your own spending money, how is that determined? I set a casual budget that Fiance “listens” too simply because I’m better at saving than he is, but we’re each free to spend as we please. Unless it’s on food! I get very angry if he buys lunch because he was too lazy to make his own. I just see it as a waste of money when we have a full fridge.
Finally, how does your being a Stay-At-Home Wife impact your relationship? It’s the foundation of our relationship, really. We have problems when I end up working too much, due to someone quitting, a change in schedule, etc. He’s happy when I’m happy and I’m happy working part-time.
Do you feel you’re required to do a certain amount of housework? Absolutely. I’m always disgusted with Stay-At-Home Wife who don’t cook/clean. What’s the point of your existence? Your body better be a ten and you9 better look like a model when he comes home or you’re good for nothing.
Does your partner do housework? Yes. He does laundry (clothes – I do linens and towels) on Saturdays while I get ready. Saturday afternoon from 10 AM – 2 PM is MY time to put myself together. He also washes the floors and does dishes most nights, but I rarely leave any as I clean up while I cook so he’s left with literally 2 plates and 2 forks, lol. I don’t leave pots and what not.
Do you ever get under each other’s feet because you’re home so much? I havea lot of quiet hobbies (reading, OCD style cleaning, forums, nails and other beauty things) whereas he doesn’t so he can annoy me because I feel like I’m left to entertain him when I want to lock myself in my room and get my girl time one. But this is another reason I work part-time – I get my quiet time this way.