Post # 1
Some of us have been feeling blah lately, I like to believe this is just a phase, because it sucks :O I for one am not in a good place since last week.
Seriously what am I waiting for? What are we (as a couple) waiting for? Waiting for something to happen is not a good feeling. I think most of you would agree that when we are DOING, trying to make something happen, striving for something, working towards something you want, you generally feel liberated.
So I thought, I am an independent woman, if I wanted a ring, I can buy one myself. I could get myself a $2000 ring of the style I like. Cash. I can make a huge purchase myself. I don’t have to wait for a guy for it. Having that “prove” on my finger could make me feel liberated and enable me to deal with progressing my life and our life as a couple more productively, instead of just feeling blah.
This is just an idea, I’m not sure if I will jump up and go ahead make that huge of a purchase right now. You know you want to save too 😛
But, maybe just thinking about it could make you see or feel things differently and maybe it will help. It’d also be good if you do buy yourself a ring though.
What do you think?
Post # 3
Are we talking about you buying a right-hand ring for yourself or an actual engagement ring?
Because if it’s a right hand ring, go for it lady!! If you can afford it, definitely consider buying yourself a new sparkly. I’m sure you deserve it.
Post # 4
Aha, I wasn’t even thinking which finger I would like to put it on :O It doesn’t really matter but I guess the Right-hand?
Post # 5
@gramgeek: Well it doesn’t really matter what finger or hand you wear it on. What I meant was, if you were to buy it a ring would you consider it an engagement ring or just a pretty piece of jewelery?
Post # 6
I’d say the ring will mean that I commit to myself to live the life I want. or something like that.
Post # 7
Alas, one of the many reasons the engagement ring will be so special to me is because I don’t really wear jewelry ever (although, going to stores, I must say a saphire ring does look a bit tempting so I can absolutely see it driving more jewelry oriented ladies crazy going ring shopping). But yes, in general I love the idea of empowered women buying themselves jewelry just because, without waiting for a man to give it. (I’m thinking Samantha’s ring atm.) I am continuing to save my pennies for the wedding itself though – it’s starting to come home to me how expensive it’ll be to have a wedding where I live. I’m figuring that roughly whatever he spends on the ring, I’ll be contributing an equal sum to a wedding fund.
Post # 8
I’ve thought about it.LOL I could buy a Tacori cash, which is the ring I planned to buy for my right hand before I met my SO, but now I can’t because I want one for my engagement ring. But I certainly might get a little cheap ring for my right hand. 🙂 Plus, that’d go far for baby right now.
Post # 9
I feel stupid asking this especially I brought this up, but can anyone tell me what the “Right Hand Ring” symbolise???
Post # 10
@gramgeek: That women are the superior species. Kidding! Sort of. Hahaha, but seriously, the right hand ring doesn’t really symbolize anything specific that I’m aware of, it’s just a pretty piece of jewelery that you’d like to wear, and it just so happens to be a ring. But to avoid nosy peeps questions, it’s worn on the right hand, lest anyone (busybody co-workers, neighbors, little blue-haired aunts and grannies) confuse it for an engagement ring.
Post # 11
So you want to buy an empowerment ring because you are feeling stressed out with waiting? I think it’s always a good idea to buy yourself pretty jewelry, I wish I had done more of that in my single days. But be prepared, it might actually bring more stress than you planned since people will see it and assume you are engaged, then you will have to clear the air and confirm that no you are still waiting. Then the conversation will most likely turn to “Well, WHEN are you going to get engaged then?” And you iwll have to provide additional updates to your waiting status.
I remember my Mom bought me a blue topaz David Yurman ring for my right middle finger and despite the fact that it was blue topaz and on my right middle finger, I had at least 100 people ask if I was engaged. IT was really annoying and stressful, so I’m just warning you ahead of time.
Post # 12
@gramgeek: I actually did this! I bought myself a three stone diamond right hand ring from James Allen for graduating college and just to remind myself of what I have accomplished. I say you should go for it! It’s on my right hand, so if people ask if it’s an engagement ring (and they do), I just reinforce which hand it is on. People think any ring is an engagement ring. Buy yourself something sparkly!
Post # 13
don’t wear it on your left hand! If you are single, (I’m not sure if you are,) you might miss potential dates! 😮
Post # 14
I totally think you should buy yourself a nice ass piece of jewelry.
Post # 15
DO IT DO IT DO IT! LOL
I’m like kay01. I don’t wear much jewelry and I’m saving for the wedding. But maybe I’ll buy a pair of fabulous designer shoes!?
Post # 16
This reminds me of the Sex and the City episode where Carrie was tired of going to showers and buying gifts. Then, there was a mishap with her shoes being taken. So, she had a shower or engagement Party for “herself.” Something like that. I loved it.
Seriously though, if you want to buy yourself a ring…I see nothing wrong with that at all. Why not….people wear a relative’s wedding ring all the time. Their granmother’s ring, or someone in the family’s ring. Doesn’t have to come from a man and you’re right, why wait and wait and wait if you want some pretty bling!?!?
My mother did it after my dad passed away. She bought herself a right hand diamond piece of bling. She didn’t feel right wearing the ring my dad got her any longer.
I say do what makes you feel good.