(Closed) How and at what age did you learn about certain female grooming 'requirements'?

posted 5 years ago in Beauty
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

iarebridezilla:  youtube videos!!

I was really into makeup and taught myself (before youtube!). It’s really not that bad! I’ve done my friend’s makeup for weddings before and they looked great. 

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I grew up surrounded by very well-groomed women, so I remember being very young (probably 4) and pretending to shave my legs and being so excited to get to do it for real. I start shaving my legs in 5th grade (I think I was 10– I started school early) because I am VERY hairy. It was probably around then, or shortly after, that I started getting my eyebrows done. 

I remember the very first time I realized I needed to shave my armpits. It was in 8th grade and I was wearing a tank top. I raised my hand to answer a question and something told me to look down. I gazed at my previously printine armpit and was appalled at the forest of black hair that seemed to appear overnight on my alabaster skin. 

I was a sophomore in high school the first time I shaved my bikini line and I went full Brazilian a year or so later. (And it had nothing to do with societal pressure to groom myself or some “trend” about women being hairless. I personally find all body hair to be completely repulsive. I shave the *fine, blonde hair* off of my arms.) 

I started doing laser hair removal about a year ago and it has been life changing. My armpits are fucking beautiful. My lady bits have never been smoother and there is nary an ingrown hair in sight.

As far as makeup goes, I’ve been obsessed with it since I could walk. I’ve been an almost daily makeup wearer since middle school (and I’m 27) and got really into proper skin care in high school. Now I’m a licensed esthetician and makeup artist and I work at a laser center doing hair (and tattoo) removal, so makeup and personal grooming really is my life!

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Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I figured it out on my own but I am also slightly odd in the fact I can go a couple weeks without shaving my legs and nobody can tell even my fiance will comment on their smoothness and im liike”umm thanks haha that hasnt been in done since idk when”  … but, then mom asked me to be open to teaching my little sister if she ever asked…

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

iarebridezilla:  my mom gave me a book it was actually good bc it kept me from having any akward talks … i cant remeber what it was called but, it covered everything with out going into unnecasarry detail for younger girls from the birds and the bees to picking out first bras…

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

iarebridezilla:  LOL what a thread. I am in your boat with make-up and tampons, my mom never used tampons and never wore anything but eyeliner so I followed suit. My first experience using a tampon was terribly uncomfortable and I didn’t use them again for months after that.

As for body hair, my mom took me to get my eyebrows waxed for the first time when I was 9, and would buy me hair creams for my face and legs (I’m Indian so I’m super hairy and it started young). But she wouldn’t let me shave my legs until I was 11… I used Nair until then. But she *never* said anything about the downstairs, so I didn’t do anything with it until college! I wasn’t having sex in high school so it wasn’t a big deal, but when I was maybe 20, my mom, a friend, and her mom were discussing this — and they thought it was straight up weird that young women are expected to shave their pubic area! Generational difference.

Post # 22
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Worker bee

My mom didn’t really bring anything to the table when it came to grooming.

But I do remember my first experience with a razor…. The afternoon on the ride home- a group of older girls were teasing me and asking if I shaved my legs. (“Say whaaa?…”) And then the rest of the time they were telling me I had to because they were so hairy. Honestly- I couldn’t see any hair! It was so fine and blonde I didn’t understand how they saw it 3 seats away.

So I get home- go to the bathroom- and found a package of my Dad’s disposable razors. And went at it. I came out with cuts everywhere and they wouldn’t stop bleeding. It was horrible.

My mom found the razor and asked me about it- the next day I had a very informative book about girls growing up.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

I remember my mom helping me shave my legs for the first time. I think I was in grade 6 or 7. Arm pits I started on my own – I don’t grow a lot there so I was probably in grade 10 before I started shaving there. And I mostly just started because I thought I should. I barely get anything growing there now. 

My eyebrows, my mom took me to a salon and I got them done professionally the first time. Then I started doing it on my own. Now I just maintain it a tad, I don’t have overly bushy eye brows anyway. 

My mom never talked to me about the bikini zone, but I realized that with wearing bathing suits, you kinda need to maintain it a bit down there. I don’t go overboard because I’m too sensitive and I can’t stand the itch after.

I became paranoid about my ever so faint mustache in high school and googled how to thread it. I guess I knew that shaving would leave stubble, somehow. I kept that up for a few years, but don’t anymore because it’s not at all noticable. Either it thinned out or I’m not so insecure (I think it thinned out)! I also used to bleach my stomach hair, and have thought about doing it again. But I’ve come to like the look of one piece bathing suits again, so I may not bother.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

iarebridezilla:  Haha, so funny! I wouldn’t mind the bush coming back, lol. But you know, even within generations there is variety — I swear, I have met 2 girls this year alone who wax THEIR WHOLE BODIES on the reg. I can’t imagine how much this costs over time or the time you have to put aside to do it.. so things are already veering towards perfectly hairless it seems. Hopefully the future won’t be too crazy.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

About tampons: My mom constantly nagged me to switch, saying I’d be more comfortable but they terrified me! I tried a few times and could never get it working. I didn’t start using them until I was probably 16 or 17. I got fed up with pads, my fear was gone, gave it a try and loved it. Can’t go back!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

CaliKhaleesi:  lol my mom also taught me too shave just like an inch above the knee and below. so bizarre! i still do it, because the hair is somewhat light, but it’s more out of habit than anything. 

my mom never told me about any of this stuff. i found it out from girl’s life magazine and worked up the courage to ask her. she cried when i got my period, not in a cute way, but told me she had a nightmare that night that i got pregnant. i was 12. i because really ashamed of getting periods, since we hid feminine products away and never spoke about it.

i plan on doing these things differently! not in a “you must shave, you must wear a training bra, etc” way, but in an open way so there doesn’t need to be embarassment.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

iarebridezilla:  ugh i was a ballerina too. i bought tiny little pantiliners and put them in my tights, because my mom didn’t use tampons and wouldn’t buy them for me. i eventually bought some from a drugstore in between dance classes, and the first time i used one i didn’t take out the applicator! so terrible. :X

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