(Closed) How (and when) did you tell your boss you were expecting?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
8937 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Wow, I can’t believe how early everyone told. I was 5 or 6 months along and thought that was pretty standard since it allows plenty of time to plan for your leave (for most positions at least). Unless there’s a health or safety risk, I don’t see why they would need to know sooner. I like keeping my personal business personal though so maybe that factors in.

Post # 17
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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Daisy_Mae :  How did you manage to wait so long? I was very visibly pregnany by 5 months… I wasn’t going to have them guessing and not have said anything?  That’s awkward.

Also, we plan big projects, conferences, etc. pretty far.  I found out I was pregnant a week after putting in an abstract to present at a conference in January… I’m due in February, so obviously that’s not happening and I will have to find someone else to cover for me.

Post # 18
9818 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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Daisy_Mae :  with my first I hid it pretty easily until 5-6 months pregnant but with #2 I was already looking bigger than normal by 14 weeks.  Even by 15-16 weeks someone in a neighboring department asked my boss if I was pregnant.  But I agree, I don’t think they NEED to know until ~20weeks or shortly after.  With both I waited until my testing came back all clear (not that that means 100% everything is good but gave me more confidence that everything was probably good).

Post # 19
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

With a lot of stuff going on in my place of employment, I told my boss at 6 weeks and asked that they kept it confidential until I announced it to everyone at 12. I have given myself a pat on the back MANY times over for saying something as early as I did. 

Post # 20
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I told my bosses after my NT scan at 12 weeks. It wasn’t awards as some of my coworkers had began to suspect I was pregnant due to my increasing bust size.

Post # 21
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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pinkisthenewblue :  I was (still am) in a similar situation like yours that I rarely see my manager, maybe once every 2 weeks or even less, he works in multiple sites and he is rarely in my building. He’s a nice guy but we don’t have a close relationship since we barely see each other. I was around 14 weeks pregnant when I sent him an email to share the news and also ask him to please not share it with the rest of the group, he was completely understanding.

Post # 22
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I work very closely with my boss and last week he confided in me that he wants me to manage this large company project that has an 18 month roll out (now through Dec 2017). I felt like I couldn’t take on this project without letting him know I’m expecting and due in March 2017 (smack in the middle of the roll out). He will keep it confidential and was excited for me. I am nervous though, this is huge project and I don’t want to feel pressure to rush back after mat leave to finish it….

Post # 23
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens

These are all great suggestions. I’m currently 11 weeks on a new job and I;m debating when and how to tell them as well. I figure I;ll wait until I start showing, maybe around 16 weeks.

Post # 25
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

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pinkisthenewblue :  I LOVE my boss and we have an amazing working relationship. I’m the executive assistant to the VP of our department for the company my husband and I work for. My Boss actually knew before our parents.  WE had our initial 7 week appointment and my Dr has just left to deliver a baby so my appointment ran long and some to find out I was a week earlier than they calculated so she couldn’t see anything so I had to come back the following week. WE I’m gone from a Dr’s Appointment for almost 3 hours and I have to tell him I have another appointment next week so of course he said is everything OK? So I told him well I might be pregnant I’ll find out next week for sure. He jokingly said what the hell am I gonna do without you for 3 months here we can change this conference room into a Baby room.

Post # 26
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m very very early (5 weeks) and planned on keeping it a secret from everyone at work including my boss ( until I start showing and cant hide it anymore.) BUT I had my yearly review today with my boss and she asked the question “where do you see yourself in 2 years…” I decided to be honest and let her know that I wasnt exactly sure because things are going to be changing for me personally. She said that she had figured it out because of the afternoons I had requested off for doctor apts in the next few months. I let her know that I was still very early and do not plan on telling anyone else. She agreed that I should keep it under wraps and promises her lips are sealed. She was very sweet and excited for us! =)

I’m glad I told her though. In case I start getting sick and having to call in OR need to ask for more days off in the future for apts- at least she knows why! =)

Post # 27
44 posts
  • Wedding: May 2016

We were TTC when I left my job on July 6th. We decided to stop trying until I got a new job and then I tested positive on July 14th… of course lol 

I got a new job fairly soon and started this past Monday on August 8th. At that point I was a little over 7 weeks. I had planned to wait until 12 weeks to tell my boss but… I learned on my first day of work that my boss 1)brings her 6 month old to work most days, 2)Owns a clothing line for breastfeeding moms on the side, and 3) Is going to get her lactation specialist certification. So while I was holding her baby – again on my first day – she asked me if I wanted kids & I said yes and then asked if my husband wanted kids and I told her I sure as heck hoped so lol I had to tell her at that point…she was so supportive. She’s very pro baby! She said she expected someone my age to need maternity leave and just asked if I planned to return and i reassured her that I not only wanted to but needed to. 

I think most managers understand that females can and may get pregnant… so they’re prepared for the most part. 

Post # 28
4998 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve been wondering about when to tell. I’ll be 10 weeks this weekend and haven’t told anyone, but I work from home mostly so it’s pretty easy! I will see my boss in person in two weeks, but I feel like it’s a little too early still. I will probably just send an email when I’m 13 weeks.

Post # 29
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

 I told my manager at 12 weeks because her manager (my director) was about to go on sabbatical for 6 weeks and I didn’t want to wait that long knowing that we are planning 2017 budget and projects, etc.  We get 6 months maternity leave at my company, which for a US company is a lot and I figured the longer I have to prepare with my team, the better for everyone.  My boss (and director) were both very happy and supportive, so I’m glad I told them but probably would have waited a few more weeks if not for the sabbatical situation. 

Post # 30
153 posts
Blushing bee

I was lucky to be able to get appointments at 5:45 and I usually l at 4:30 so no one suspecte anything. I told my boss at 16 weeks. I was starting to show and we had gotten back good results.  I was in her office for something else and at the end I said- I’m hoping to leave at 3 todayandImpregnant. She gasped because she didn’t suspect anything.  

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