Post # 1
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Helper bee
I don’t know if I am just being crazy or if this would annoy lots of people. But I have a friend who can be a bit bossy and arguementitive (maybe that is why it annoys me), and we have a project due soon that we have to do together. I have had a lot of personal/family stuff going on, and on wednesday’s I have a long break, and was thinking of spending that time to deal with my matters.
She sends me this message ..
“So our project is due next Tuesday.. we are going to be doing it this Wednesday durning your breaks. And possibly at night if it is not finished. deal?”
I don’t know if it is just becuase parts of her annoy me so I am over analyzing, or it legitimately bothers me. I just got to thinking how she talks to me sometimes.
It generally bothers me when people tell me what to do. Just wanted to know how much it bothers you when people are demanding.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I absolutely can’t stand it when people tell me what to do, to the extent that if I’m planning on doing something and then someone tells me to do it, I will sometimes decide not to do it after all. It’s especially terrible since I’m actually a little bossy myself! I’m working on it though.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
@Cecilia37: hahahaha I’ve been known to do this as well. However, it’s usually just for certain people. So if x asks me to do something I won’t. But if y asks me to do the same thing, I would. Which I guess all comes down to how you approached me about whatever it is.
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
My mom is very much like this, and I can’t stand it. So I’m with you…I hate when people tell me what to do or are in any way demanding. Don’t volunteer me for things when you haven’t asked if it’s ok first.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
Be bossy right back and say that day doesn’t work!
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
That would piss me off too. Is it so hard to ask nicely instead of just stating what you want and expecting others to go along with it? I’m like Cecilia37, if someone treats me like that I am more likely to NOT do whatever it is just to be stubborn.
I’d send her a message right back saying. “No deal. Wednesday doesn’t work for me, what about ________ instead?”
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
When people are bossy it IS annoying.. but I know when it comes to school that I hate working with other people on projects because…well.. I like things to be perfect. When forced to work in a group, I tend to hate people that slack off.. Are you the slacker? lol
Post # 9
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Honey bee
I HATE when people tell me what to do. I get all defensive, b*tchy and tend to not listen. So that comment would TOTALLY annoy me. I much prefer to be asked, not told and take it much better.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
I know she could have worded it a little differently asking if you were available during your break instead of declaring that you had to work on the project during that time. Yes that would bother me too!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
OK good. Right after I posted, I realized how much I rambled, and then thought people would think I am being dumb.
It definitely depends on who it is, since I know her personality, the littlest comments would piss me off.
I do get annoyed when people tell me what to do. ESPECICALLY when I was going to do it anyways! It makes me not want to do it, so I don’t reward their bad behaviour.
@MrsNeutrino: I am not the slacker, I was the one that was constantly reminding when the due date was. ACTUALLY turns out that she bailed (I did my share today anyways)