Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I’m just curious as to how your parent’s and your fiance’s parents are helping pay for the wedding, if they’re even helping.
I’ve never been to a wedding on my fiance’s side of the family, but apparently his mom’s side of the family usually makes the food themselves for the most part. My fiance also thinks that his parents will end up paying for alcohol.
My parents will most likely end up just writing us a check for XX amount of dollars and that’s what we’ll get and we can put it towards whatever we want to.
I have no complaints about this set up, and I’m not looking for advice. Just genuinely curious as to how other couples are paying for the wedding. 
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
We paid for our own wedding.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: November 2015 - City, State
My FIL’s volunteered to pay for the rehearsal dinner and the alcohol and even half of our honeymoon (which was extremely generous). My parents paid for my dress, DJ, and some of the photographer costs. My Fiance has paid for everything else thus far.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
My parents paid the down payment on our venue and caterer, and have offered to buy my dress. His parents are not contributing financially as they can’t afford it.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
- Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)
mrspezewski: My parents paid for my dress and my husband’s parents paid for the rehearsal dinner. Both moms made all the food for my bridal shower and made cookies for my cookie table (Pittsburgh thing).
Post # 6
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Worker bee
My inlaws are not paying for anything. My mom is helping witht he catering. My dad paid for photograhers.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
We are paying for everything ourselves. Unless someone pops out of the woodwork and offers which I find very unlikely.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
My parents paid for everything and his parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
My (very generous) parents have always told my sisters and I they would pay for one wedding each, so they’re paying for the wedding. His parents aren’t in the picture so I think we’ll end up paying for rehearsal dinner/honeymoon/whatever else.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
My parents gave us $1,000 and DH’s father gave us another $1,000. We paid for the rest ($13,000) ourselves. We can afford it so it wasn’t that big of a deal to us. Rehearsal Dinner was paid for my DH’s aunt.
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
We paid for half, in laws 25%, my parents 25%. Plus my mom threw a welcome party the night before and his parents paid for our flowers because they are obsessed with flowers and I am not 🙂
Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
mrspezewski: Neither of our parents were able to contribute. We were also damn poor so we eloped.
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
One thing that my fiance and I are putting money towards is plane tickets for his best man and family because they live in california and we’re in wisconsin.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
mrspezewski: I didn’t have my cc with me when I found my dress. I had my mom with me, so she paid the deposit of I think $300? MIL picked up the restaurant tab for brunch at the hotel the morning after the wedding. I don’t think it was pre planned or anything, she just did it on the spot. There was probably about 8-10 of us. It was nice of her.
Other than that we paid for our very expensive wedding on our own. But we are older, so we are in a positon to do so. I honestly do not know how younger couples pay for weddings on their own, it would have been very tough for us in our early-mid twenties. Maybe we would have eloped like I wanted anyway if we were that young.
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Helper bee
- Wedding: November 2015 - Winery
We are paying for most everything ourselves. My parents offered to pay for the food early on which was awesome! And since we come from a Mexcan family my dad insisted that there be alcohol! We are supplying wine since its at a winery and we have to buy X amount of wine. I told my parents that if they wanted beer, they could pay for it and they agreed. Fiance and I don’t drink beer so it wasn’t necessary for us. My Future In-Laws gave us $$ to put towards anything BUT the wedding. :/ IDK why. That’s what they requested so we used it to book our honeymoon.