(Closed) how are the parents and in-laws helping pay?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 2
47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We paid for our own wedding.

Post # 3
2843 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

My FIL’s volunteered to pay for the rehearsal dinner and the alcohol and even half of our honeymoon (which was extremely generous). My parents paid for my dress, DJ, and some of the photographer costs. My Fiance has paid for everything else thus far.

Post # 4
4054 posts
Honey bee

My parents paid the down payment on our venue and caterer, and have offered to buy my dress. His parents are not contributing financially as they can’t afford it. 

Post # 5
589 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

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mrspezewski:  My parents paid for my dress and my husband’s parents paid for the rehearsal dinner. Both moms made all the food for my bridal shower and made cookies for my cookie table (Pittsburgh thing).  

Post # 6
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My inlaws are not paying for anything. My mom is helping witht he catering. My dad paid for photograhers. 

Post # 7
2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

We are paying for everything ourselves. Unless someone pops out of the woodwork and offers which I find very unlikely.

Post # 8
1316 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My parents paid for everything and his parents paid for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon.


Post # 9
266 posts
Helper bee

My (very generous) parents have always told my sisters and I they would pay for one wedding each, so they’re paying for the wedding. His parents aren’t in the picture so I think we’ll end up paying for rehearsal dinner/honeymoon/whatever else. 

Post # 10
1386 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My parents gave us $1,000 and DH’s father gave us another $1,000. We paid for the rest ($13,000) ourselves. We can afford it so it wasn’t that big of a deal to us. Rehearsal Dinner was paid for my DH’s aunt. 

Post # 11
1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We paid for half, in laws 25%, my parents 25%. Plus my mom threw a welcome party the night before and his parents paid for our flowers because they are obsessed with flowers and I am not 🙂

Post # 12
9144 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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mrspezewski:  Neither of our parents were able to contribute. We were also damn poor so we eloped.

Post # 14
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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mrspezewski:  I didn’t have my cc with me when I found my dress.  I had my mom with me, so she paid the deposit of I think $300?  MIL picked up the restaurant tab for brunch at the hotel the morning after the wedding.  I don’t think it was pre planned or anything, she just did it on the spot.  There was probably about 8-10 of us.  It was nice of her.  

Other than that we paid for our very expensive wedding on our own.  But we are older, so we are in a positon to do so.  I honestly do not know how younger couples pay for weddings on their own, it would have been very tough for us in our early-mid twenties.  Maybe we would have eloped like I wanted anyway if we were that young.

Post # 15
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Winery

We are paying for most everything ourselves. My parents offered to pay for the food early on which was awesome! And since we come from a Mexcan family my dad insisted that there be alcohol! We are supplying wine since its at a winery and we have to buy X amount of wine. I told my parents that if they wanted beer, they could pay for it and they agreed. Fiance and I don’t drink beer so it wasn’t necessary for us. My Future In-Laws gave us $$ to put towards anything BUT the wedding. :/ IDK why. That’s what they requested so we used it to book our honeymoon.

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