Post # 1
How far are you going to accomodate picky/ specific/ allergic eaters?
I am working really hard to accomodate the allergies and the lifestyle choices (vegan etc) since I am a vegetarian, but i have a guest coming who is the pickyest eater ever. she won’t eat lots of random things but not on principle (eg she wont drink milk but she drinks chocolate milk) I know she wont have much to eat but after ordering vegan meals, having vegetarian options and accomodating an onion allergy (not hers) with family style food, I sort of feel like its ok.
I know she doesn’t like the veggies that we will use for the vegan option and she doesnt like cheese except parmesan (eggplant parm is the veggie choice)
As a vegetarian who doesnt eat mayo, I once went to a wedding where I only ate rice. (the only other veggie dish was potato salad) so I do feel a little guilty.
How hard are you working for specific guests?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Honestly, not that hard. We’re having beef, chicken, and vegetarian options, but no vegan. The vegetarian option has goat cheese, which I know a lot of people don’t like (but it was the only vegetarian dish offered by the venue, and Mr. S and I both like it a lot). Out of 200 people on our guest list, though, only two are vegan (and they don’t eat ANY processed foods at all–they are both raw food vegans–so I imagine they expect to feed themselves beforehand anyway), and I hope the rest will be okay with the salads and side dishes if for some reason the food isn’t good enough.
Post # 4
We worked pretty hard, but in the end, knew that there were probably going to be one or two of our vegan/raw food guests that wouldn’t be eating much…
The thing is, they have a hard time where ever they go out to eat, not just at a wedding… so I figured they’d be used to it.
Our vegetarians were very happy though!
Post # 5
my caterer is a total hippie and he thinks it is great that my sister is a vegan, so he is making vegan meals at no extra charge! I think i will order some vegan cupcakes too, so they arent left out of sweets.
i guess my picky friend will have to pack a pbj tho…
Post # 6
We will have a couple of guests who are kosher (OOT) and a few vegetarians, but no vegans (to my knowledge). For the kosher folks – I’ve seen them pack for out-of-town trips, and I know that they pack their own food. Just in case, though, I’ll be trying to find some kosher restaurants and grocery stores ahead of time, since I’m not sure about our caterer’s kosher standards. I suspect they’ll eat pre-reception and have the salad with dinner. For the vegetarians, we’ll be offering a veggie option.
Post # 7
I honestly wouldn’t worry about it. I think I fall into the category of a “very picky eater” and I NEVER expect people to accommodate me. If I am going to a fancy wedding I assume that I won’t like the food and I pick up food on the way to the reception.
Post # 8
We are only accommodating for those with food allergies and vegetarians for dinner. Our cocktail hour has so much variety to it and we figured that quite a few people (like us) tend to fill up so much during cocktail hour that they don’t eat much of their meal.
Post # 9
I am gluten free and frequently worry about what I will eat when attending a wedding. If it’s a close friend getting married, I usually ask what will be served so I kind of have a heads up. Other times I may eat a snack before and hope for the best. If it is a buffet I clearly avoid things that are likely to have gluten in them. At one wedding (sit down dinner) when the server brought out salads I asked if they had any without croutons. She asked if I had a food allergy and said she would bring the main course without the sauce (which contained wheat). I was really appreciative. I also have been to a buffet wedding where almost everything was fried and I had to nibble on the one or two things I thought were safe.
That being said, I don’t think you have to do anything crazy to accomodate special diets. You already said you have vegetarian food covered and if you know of anyone with a food allergy make sure you have something available for them or that the food could be modified slightly just for that specific guest. As far as the “picky eater” goes, I would probably just ignore it.
Post # 10
Honestly, we didn’t work that hard, but we didn’t have to. We only had 2 vegetarians in attendance and no vegans or folks with food allergies. In our case, the guest list was small enough, so we had a chicken and a vegetarian option and called it a day. As for picky people–I figured if people didn’t like what we had, they didn’t have to eat it. I thought it was too hard to accomodate eeryone’s individual taste, so we picked something that was universally appealing and figured it would work.
Post # 11
We’re working to accomodate one guest with a lot of food allergies. Otherwise, it will be the regular vegetarian option for those who don’t want/like the main course. But we’re only having a sit-down dinner for 30 guests. After that’s it’s an 8pm cocktail reception and I figure I can only do so much to ensure people have something to eat. But yeah, I’ve been in the “well, I don’t like to eat this” boat before and have either just eaten it so I have something in my stomach, or eaten beforehand assuming that there will be nothing there that I will like.
I figure for allergies/lifestyle choices, it’s considerate to have something to meet their needs. I’m much less willing to bend over for someone who is just picky.
Post # 12
We actually really aren’t! We are having a variety of food, meat, salad, potatoes, etc, but nothing really to accomodate people! Maybe thats mean of us, but we are paying, its our wedding, and its the food we want!
Post # 13
We had a jamaican food buffet.. besides that, nothing out of the ordinary or specific. Picky eaters know what they’re getting into and in my experience eat before they come, or pack something. Don’t worry too much about it, you can’t please everyone.
Post # 14
i’m a vegetarian, so we’re definitely having a vegetarian option. and fsil is allergic to gluten, so we’ll make sure either one of the options is gluten-free or that she can get a special meal. and our wedding will be semi-kosher–ie no seafood or pork but we’ll mix meat and milk (as far as we know all our kosher guests are fine eating vegetarian out of the house). beyond that, we aren’t catering to anyone specifically, and definitely not to people who are just picky. i mean, i don’t like mushrooms or spinach, and i don’t even know how many times i’ve been to events or restaurants where the only veg option has mushrooms and/or spinach. after a certain point, people can deal. i know i have.
Post # 15
It is one thing to accommodate someone with allergies or personal diet restrictions (including vegan-vegetarians). It is another to plan your entire wedding menu for one person who won’t eat something out of pickiness. I’ve seen vegans at weddings eat nothing but undressed salad. they didn’t snub or complain.