(Closed) How are you being introduced?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How are you being/how were you introduced?
    Mr. and Mrs. Smith : (9 votes)
    16 %
    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith : (31 votes)
    56 %
    John and Jane Smith : (15 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 33
    Member
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think we’ll keep it simple with the Mr. & Mrs. Smith option (I don’t think the Mr. & Mrs. John Smith because it leaves me out)…. but my Fiance has such a HUGE family (and a ton of them live around the wedding town) that we will probably do a little twist when we enter the reception as the “the NEWEST Mr. & Mrs. Smith” — haha. 🙂

    Post # 34
    Member
    1568 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

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    @Mrs.KMM: I can understand being unwilling to accept Wikipedia as a source of authority in proving that this etiquette rule has been updated. Emily Post, however, joins Wikipedia in disagreeing with you.

    http://www.emilypost.com/forms-of-address/titles/96-guide-to-addressing-correspondence

    Emily Post, emphasis mine:

    Addressing a Woman

    Maiden name

    Ms. Jane Johnson

    Miss Jane Johnson*

    *usually ‘Miss’ is for girls under 18

    Married, keeping maiden name

    Ms. Jane Johnson

    Married, uses husband’s name socially

    Mrs. John Kelly

    Mrs. Jane Kelly*

    *Nowadays this is acceptable

    Ms. Jane Kelly


    Much like the U.S. Constitution is a living document, subject to revised interpretation through the centuries as judges reflect upon changes in social understanding of morality, etiquette evolves. The rules you cite were correct many decades ago, but current etiquette recognizes the importance of a woman’s right to identify herself using an honorific and her first name if she so chooses. I agree that simply because everyone is doing something doesn’t make it correct, but every so often, the rules themselves change in order to better reflect a massive turn of the tide of society. 

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    @lilybay:Apologies for hijacking your thread! I think that you should be introduced in whatever way sounds best to you and your Fiance. Unfortunately, as you can see, this is a bit of a controversial topic, so this is one case in which the boards can’t give you a straight answer one way or the other.

    Post # 35
    Member
    876 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We’ll be introduced as Jane Smythe and John Smith (our last names sound similar and I will be keeping my last name).

    Post # 36
    Member
    2530 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith is how we were introduced!

    Post # 37
    Member
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Mr. and Mrs. John & Jane Smith for us!

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