Post # 1
We are paying for our own wedding and even though “traditionally” the grooms parents are supposed to pay for the rehersal dinner, we arent banking on that since his parents haven’t said anything to us and are just planning our own rehersal dinner anyways, regardless if they were to say something to us.
That being said, we can’t afford to book off a section and take everyone (rougly 30 people) out to a nice restaraunt and we arent about to take everyone out to eat to a casual family dining restaraunt either. So we are doing a BBQ style dinner outside at our place (hoping that we have good weather or else we don’t have a backup plan)
What do you think of this for our rehersal dinner? Is anyone else doing this too?
Would love to hear your thoughts bee’s 🙂
Post # 3
This kind of thing was my idea for my Rehearsal Dinner until my mom said she would pay for a restaurant. I think it’s totally fine to host a casual cookout for the Rehearsal Dinner. Maybe you could even set up some lawn games like horse shoes, croquet, volleyball, etc. I bet people would have a great time!
Post # 4
That is what we are doing!! My parents are throwing it but they are just doing a small bar b q in their backyard with some ribs and old fashion style. It will be very small but it will also be the night before the wedding.
A BBQ would be very nice especially since you have a party that big! 🙂
Post # 5
I think it’s great. We actually would have loved to go this route but proximity to my IL’s (where we would have held it) wasn’t conveinant to our venue and we didn’t feel like making everyone drive all over. I love casual RD’s, especially when the wedding is on the formal side. I’m sure your guests will have a great time.
As for what we did, our Rehearsal Dinner was held at one of our favorite Mexican restaurants. It was simple and laid back, exactly how he wanted it.
Post # 6
My FI’s brother just had pizza and soda at his Rehearsal Dinner. I think the BBQ is a pretty cool idea. I would enjoy it. Gives everyone a little time to interact in a casual setting.
Post # 7
@HisBrideinJune2012: I think yours sounds really nice!
We are just having dinner at FI’s parents house. It’ll probably be semi-potluck. Which is exactly what I want! It will be cozy and there will be lots of wine. 🙂
Post # 8
We are having a cookout at our house. Hamburgers, hotdogs…ect…
Post # 9
My FIL’s are paying for the food and may want to plan something in a restaurant, but I think we are going to suggest having a bbq at my grandma’s. His FIL’s are from out of town so they don’t have the luxury of hosting it themselves… plus they have to pay for Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law to come because they can’t afford it… so that goes our rehearsal dinner in a restaurant. I don’t mind that much though because it’ll be less formal and we can play games like bocce ball or croquet.
Post # 10
We got married in the UK where rehearsal dinners aren’t really common, so instead of doing something really formal, my parents just hosted a nice informal luncheon before the rehearsal. My mom just did stuff like croissants, fruit platter, veggie tray, chicken salad, etc., and since it was quite small (like, 20 or 25 people–enough to host comfortably in our house with nice plates and cutlery), the bill was pretty minimal. Worked out pretty well in the end, I thought!
Post # 11
I think it’s a great idea as long as the weather is good. I know we’d have a tough time having 30 people in our home, it’d be chaotic instead of enjoyable.
We’re hosting ours at Spaghetti Warehouse. It’s your dreaded ‘casual family dining’ but it’s perfect for us. We have a private area with our own bar, and we like that it’s casual and kitschy.
Post # 12
i love the idea of a bbq for a Rehearsal Dinner. it’s so much more relaxing.
Post # 13
I think the cookout-style rehearsal dinner is pretty normal. My parents did it, my Brother-In-Law did it, so I think it’s a great idea if it makes you happy! I loved BIL’s rehearsal dinner. Burgers, hotdogs, coolers of beer and just wandering around socializing. We did a formal dinner ourselves, but that’s because Mother-In-Law wanted to pay for and plan it. If it’d been up to us to pay, we would’ve done a cookout too.
Post # 14
love this idea! We ultimately didnt decide to do this, but when we were talking about rehearsal dinner ideas, i totally brought up the idea of having it at my parents house. I think its great and will be so fun for the night before 🙂
Post # 15
How close is your Fiance with his parents? Honestly, my Darling Husband just kind of asked his folks if they would be willing to host our Rehearsal Dinner, since it is tradition. They were fine with it, but I doubt they would have offered if we waited around.
If that isn’t an option, I love the backyard BBQ idea. Maybe you could rent a tent in case the weather isn’t perfect. We would have liked to do something like that, but New England weather is so iffy in the fall.
Post # 16
@FutureMuniz: Ours is the night before our wedding too. So I think it will be nice. We figure with our immediate families, bridal party with their dates, and a couple of out of town people – the number is around 30. It could be even be as low as 20 but better to be on the safe side.