Post # 1
First of all, only since joining Weddingbee I have heard about excluding children. I know don’t want small children at our ceremony, with exception to out of town guests. Mainly because I don’t want any crying disruptions and I’m not even having my children attend the ceremony. My husband thinks its so RUDE and says no one gonna come. But isn’t that why we send invitations out 2mnths before, so they can make plans?
Another issue is the other older children that are also under 21. We recently attended a wedding where security ID’d any guests coming in after 7pm and put on bracelets like clubs. We have to have security at our wedding by city code and we’ll be having beer/cocktails. I don’t want young kids trying to be sneaky or bringing in other young friends. PLUS, there is an 18 and older nightclub up the street from out venue!
Post # 3
Wedding related hand stamps for those who can drink, or a seperate room/party for those under age?
Sorry if my advice sucks, I’m not having this issue so I’m not exactly sure how to solve it. Good luck!
Post # 4
We allowed people of all ages.
ETA: I personally don’t think it’s nice to separate the young adults, though. I wouldn’t attend (or would leave extremely early) if I were probably 16/17/18-20 and had to sit in the childrens’ section. I like the wristbands or maybe just having the bartender ID though. We just left it up to parents if they would bring their younger children.
Post # 5
If you truly do not want children there say adult ceremony/reception only, people will have plenty of time to find a sitter, and if they complain then obviously it is not as important to them as you thought. Lots of people have adult weddings only.
Or if you are going to have them invited maybe set up a room at the reception hall if there is one, and possibly hire a couple people depending on how many kids you have coming to help entertain and watch them.
As for the people trying to sneak younger people in, you said you have to have security so use it, have a guest list and have them check names off as people come in.
Post # 6
@AngelS: The only children we’re having are my first cousins because they are like nieces and nephews to me as my aunt and uncles are close to my age. They’re also my only first cousins. These children will range from 5 months old to 10 years old. I don’t mind. I can’t imagine not having them there.
Post # 7
I have two friends (co-workers) with young children – 2 yrs, 4yrs, and 6 yrs. I told them it would be best to leave them at home mainly because one of these kids is pretty wild and I didn’t want the disruption. Couldn’t tell one child to stay away and let the others come.
I do have three children in the wedding party – 9 yrs, 11yrs, and 13 yrs. They are exceptions because they are older, in the wedding, and children of relatives.
I guess my feeling is you can bring your child if they are old enough to understabd what is happening.
Hope that helps.