Post # 1
Hello bees! I’m not sure what to do about the night before our wedding… We will be having a rehearsal and rehearsal dinner on Friday and the wedding on Saturday. We kind of splurged on our wedding night hotel room, so I don’t want to have to book a room to stay at the night before also. But, I would also prefer to not see my FI on our wedding day until our first look.
We live together very close to our venue. My parent’s place is too far and not an option. I don’t have any friends in town I could stay with… I’m at a loss of what to do/where to stay. I could sleep on the couch and tell him he can’t come out of our bedroom until I’m gone… but that seems just silly. I also might have my MOH and her boyfriend staying at our place.
What did you bees do?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
We’re getting our hotel suite for the wedding night and the rehearsal night. After the rehearsal dinner my mom and I are going to stay in the suite and have a sleepover for my last night as a single lady!
Post # 3
That’s tough. We didn’t book a hotel so we would be seperate and plus it made it easier for all the girls and me to get ready in the morning. Does your husband have any friends or family he can stay with?
Post # 4
kb7: I have a similar situation! For our wedding night, I booked a suite. For the night before the wedding, I also reserved a room just in case (it is cancellable up to 24 hours before check-in). My FI and I live together, and I really don’t like the idea of sleeping in a hotel the night before. I feel like I probably won’t get a good night’s rest (not that I will be able to anyway, haha). I also was worried about where to get ready. So here is what we are doing:
He is going to stay at his parents’ house the night before the wedding. He feels that he will be comfortable there. I am going to stay at our house with my MOH. We will leave the house in the morning and going to the hair salon. My hair salon is awesome, and they offered to let us get ready there, setting up a table with drinks/snacks and a place to do our own makeup and hang out while everyone gets their hair done. That way we don’t have to worry about getting a hotel room just to get ready.
If your FI doesn’t have family nearby, maybe you could stay in seperate areas of the house? It might be kind of fun 🙂
Post # 5
kb7: I’m going to be staying at my parents’ house
Post # 6
Well, for my wedding I had rented two houses for each of our families…he stayed at “his” rental and I stayed at “my” rental. I spent the night before the wedding with my bridesmaids, my mom and a close family friend working on all the DIY stuff for my wedding (flowers, reception decor, steaming the dresses, etc). He spent the night before the wedding smoking cigars with the male members of his family. We both got “bonding” time with our families, and it was what worked for us.
I say do whatever feels right to you. The most important thing is to get a good night’s sleep!!!
Post # 7
kb7: We got a suite the night before the wedding and the night of. Right now, we plan to stay overnight the night before together. Unsure if this will change but I’m ok with it. We’ve lived together for 4 years now so the jig is up.
Post # 8
I went to the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner and went home with my now husband. We slept in our room, in our bed, and in the morning I left and went to get ready. That’s just what worked for us. It seemed silly to sleep apart when we were doing a first look anyway.
Post # 9
lynzietru: His family is nearby but isn’t an option.
We have space to get ready at our venue. Separate rooms for the guys and girls, hair and makeup is coming to us.
We have a second bedroom so I guess I could always stay in there. But it will be likely that either my MOH and her boyfriend, or the Best Man and his girlfriend will be staying with us while they’re in town so they don’t have to get a room. In which case they would have the second bedroom… So that leaves me on the couch? At that point I feel like I should just sleep in our bed. But I really wanted to wait to see him on our actual wedding day until the first look. I feel like waking up with each other ruins that…
Post # 10
We are going to be having a normal night at home just the two of us (after the rehearsal dinner). I decided I wanted it this way because it would help me be calm and sleep. But it sounds like you don’t want to do this, so I am not very helpful!
Post # 11
kb7: Yeah, the couch doesn’t sound fun at all… you don’t want to be stiff or uncomfortable! I feel the same way about sleeping apart the night before.. it makes it more fun and builds up the anticpation and the “moment” more i think!
I know this is silly, but you could invest in a good air mattress or put one on your registry! if we were going to be staying in the same house, either he or I would sleep downstairs (Finished basement) on our air mattress. Just as comfy as our bed!
Post # 12
Stay in a cheaper hotel the night before the wedding? Stay at home with your FI, leave first thing in the morning, and the official “don’t see each other before the wedding” part begins when you walk out the door? (Still counts, I think)? Get a hotel room or suite with your BMs and split the cost? If your parents live far away, are they going to be getting a hotel room the night before the wedding? You could stay with them there. Or any other out-of-town close friends, for that matter.
Post # 13
lynzietru: Funny thing is I’m about the heaviest sleeper I know… so I’m sure I would sleep just fine on the couch. We have backpacking/camping airmattresses, but the couch is much comfier.
sunflower22: Parents only live about 45 mins from our venue, so I doubt they’ll get a hotel. I could stay there but I don’t feel like driving almost an hour to the boonies when I live 5 mins from our venue. Maybe could get a room with some bridesmaids, or crash with a friend… Only awkward thing is all friends will be coupled up, so it’s like hey! let me crash your hotel room and be the third wheel!
I feel like this is more complicated than it needs to be, haha.
Post # 14
We stayed together the night before the wedding and I’m so glad we did. We got to wake up together and share a little bit of “OH MY GOD IT’S FINALLY HERE!!!” excitement. Then we separated to get ready and met up for our first look.
Have you actually thought about why you don’t want to see him until the first look? If you have and it’s really important, then you’ll have to find somewhere else to stay. But if that’s just the default because “it’s what people do” then I’d think about just staying together and then separating to get ready with your girls. Because it’s once you’re all dolled up that you want to have a bbig first look.
Post # 15
I’m staying in a hotel, my parents live about 45 minutes away from the venue, but are staying close-by so that I have somewhere to get ready that’s not my own house.. Could you arrange something like this?