(Closed) How are you keeping your relationship strong?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

We talk, we are there for each other in times of trouble/stress. We help each other out in whatever way we can, even if it’s just a hug. We tell each other we love each other, and we show it too. Even just looking into each other’s eyes, seeing the love there really keeps us strong 🙂

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’ve made a lot of good points. We also struggle with schedules. Right now he works full time plus overtime and then there are the weeks when he’s “on call”, and through all this he takes 2 classes, one 2 mornings a wek and the other 6-10pm 1 evening a week. The addition of a morning class this semester means he has had to totally rearrange his work schedule and work a swing shift. I only see him to wake him up, say goodbye and then I stay up late to see him for a little while between when he gets home and when he does homework until 2am. It’s been very hard as a couple and he rarely gets to see my daughter who lives with us and they miss each other. Most of all, we miss going to bed together.

We stay close by talking. I respect his need for some alone/down time. He understands that I have tons of alone time and need some adult companionship. We stay up very late and talk in bed, in the dark. We work to make time for sex. We always say those 4 magic words: “How was your day?” We listen to each other. We make time to dream out loud. We never forget to support each other and tell each other how proud we are of the other. When we’re too tired for anything energetic, we make sure we touch each other anyway – I always get foot massages and he always gets back scratches.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Learning to compromise and not hold grudges. I have realize that we all make mistakes and dont hold it against him when he makes them.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We do all of the things you stated as well, but we also plan dream days! One weekend during the month, I will plan a special date. Usually the day is filled from late morning to evening. I try to get creative, thoughtful, and low cost 🙂 The next month, my fiancé picks a weekend to plan a dream day. We do anything from picnics to paddle boarding to wine tasting. It’s a great way to keep having fun with each other! We just started this idea in June, but it has made a big difference! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Here are my points…they’re alot like yours! But with COARSE LANGUAGE so be advised…

1. DON’T BE “THAT WAY”. Jealousy doesn’t look good on anyone. Neither does a controlling attitude. I’ve seen so many people fall victim to jealousy which in turns sets them on this weird course of playing mind games and internet stalking their significant other. If you’re experiencing any problems with jealousy the first thing you need to do is figure out whether it’s an insecurity of your own that’s causing the suspicions, or if your significant other is actually giving you some sort of reason. If it’s you, work on yourself, get help. If it’s them, figure out what the hell is going on with them and/or kick them to the curb. 

2. DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF. Ok, I get it, you hate when he leaves the toilet seat up or she drives you crazy when she leaves all her makeup all over the counter. But one of the things that being chronically ill has taught me is that in the long run shit like that doesn’t matter. Although bad habits can be annoying, they’re nothing to blow up over. However, that leads me to my next point

3. JUST CLEAN YOUR CRAP UP, OK?! Or whatever the bad habit is that you have, work on getting rid of it. Your significant other shouldn’t have to BEG you to do things you promised you’d do a million years ago. JUST EFFING DO IT. Stop being lazy. 

4. COMMUNICATION IS KEY. Don’t hide stuff from your significant other. Open communication works best. If you’re feeling a certain way, tell them. Talk about it. Work things out. Holding in emotions or problems will only cause more issues eventually. 

5. MAKE JOINT DECISIONS. Kinda goes along with communication. Sharing the work load and making joint decisions are a key point in our relationship. If we can’t come to a final conclusion? Compromise always works. 

6. BE THEIR BEST FRIEND ABOVE ALL ELSE. Sexual attraction IS very important, so you gotta have that, but above all else be their friend. Dare to be silly. Take pictures in photo booths. Wear funny hats. Watch your favorite tv shows together. Have picnics with junk food, and just have FUN. Don’t be so serious all the time, relationships are supposed to be fun most of the time. 

Everyone has their ups and downs, but following these key points Danny and I have always had WAAAAAAY more ups than downs. ^_^ 

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