(Closed) How are you splitting the holidays?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 47
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

this is our first married thanksgiving/Christmas! Last year we spent both holidays with my family since we got married right after Christmas. 

This year, we are spending Thankgiving with my family and Christmas with his.

In the future, we want to host and have his family come to us for Christmas one year!


Post # 48
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We always do Christmas Eve with FI’s Mom’s side, Christmas Day with my side and Boxing Day with FI’s Dad’s side. It’s always busy but fun.

It is nice come New Years, we can ususally do our own thing or party with friends!

Post # 49
4697 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@AnonymousCupcake:  While Canadian Thanksgiving is long passed.. We spent one of the days with my family and one with his (we tend to make our plans with my family first and then his family picks the other day during the holiday.. my fam is bigger so its easier that way).

For Christmas, we spend Christmas eve and day with my family and see his family on boxing day. This year we’re thinking of spending Christmas eve on our own, but we’ll see.


Post # 50
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I’m hosting my husband’s family for Thanksgiving. That night, we plan to stop in to visit some of my family.


Christmas is up in the air. We may or may not host my family.


In the past, for each holiday, we always went to both houses (thankfully, both families live near one another).


In the future, we might just switch off holidays every other year. I.E., Christmas with his family in 2014 and 2016, Christmas with my family in 2015, 2017.

We have more room for hosting anyway.

Post # 51
3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m actually happy that our families don’t live near each other when it comes to the holidays, because it means we can’t split the actually days between two (or more) sets.  It’s sad for either of us to not be with our family for any given holiday, but we’re getting used to it – and it just sounds exhausting to do all the driving around from family to family.

This will be our last year of our current tradition – Thanksgiving weekend with my family in Indiana, about a week and a half over Christmas with his family down in Florida, then back to Indiana the weekend after Christmas for my family’s Christmas celebration.

Starting next year, we’ll likely be across the country (not driving distance to my family like we are now), and we’ll have grown-up schedules instead of grad school ones, so we won’t have 4 weeks off over the holidays Smile We’ve talked about alternating Thanksgiving and New Years with our families, and spending Christmas at home on our own (starting our own traditions with our kids – hopefully the first of which will have arrived by next Christmas!).

Post # 52
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re in Northern California.  We’ll spend Thanksgiving with his family in Minnesota and Christmas with my family in Southern California.  We’ll likely be back home for New Years.  

The idea is that next year we will reverse that and do Thanksgiving with mine and Christmas with his.  There is a good chance we’ll be moving before then though, so on the chance that we move near one of our families we may alter it a bit.  

Honestly, this whole splitting thing sucks.  I have no idea what we’ll do when we have kids :-/

Post # 53
4146 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

DH’s parent are in Scotland – no thanksgiving! But we are going there all of next week to visit as its a time when I only have to take 2 days off of work. 

For chiratmas, we stay with my mom and do Christmas morning with her, then all 3 of us go to DH’s brother’s house for dinner 

Post # 54
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Some of you ladies have crazy schedules for the holidays!! 

My side is still slowing figuring out which holidays to have when. With so many siblings (7 kids), and increasing numbers of significant others (some with families in nearby states), it’s hard for us all to make it together on one day. 

This year, my family is having a Thanksgiving brunch on the Sunday before Thanksgiving as it’s the only time when everyone is available (which is VERY different from our usual trip to my grandma’s farm for the weekend). So Thanksgiving Day we’ll be with DH’s family. 

Christmas Eve is always with DH’s family (they’re Polish and it’s a big deal). Christmas Day morning/early afternoon is with my parents and siblings, and then evening is with my mom’s side. Christmas with my dad’s side happens anytime between December 20th and New Years Eve, just whenever the most people are free (there are about 25 of us).

Post # 55
4435 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@AnonymousCupcake:  DH’s family all live on the opposite coast, so we will stay in town with my family!

Post # 56
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AnonymousCupcake: We lucked out as far as Christmas traditions go. My family celebrates Christmas late-morning with readings, gifts, food, etc. His family celebrates Christmas Eve night (so Christmas is relaxing and Christ-centered as opposed to gift-centered).

So Christmas evening will be with his family (here in town), and then drive an hour to my family Christmas morning — best of both worlds!

Post # 58
295 posts
Helper bee

Even though we been together as a couple for four years this is first time we are actually spending the holidays together. Which could be interesting since it will also be the first time away from our families too. Although in December we are going right in the middle between the two major holidays to see everyone for the first time since July. In doing so we are splitting the trip in down the middle Between our families. The first two days with his family and the last two days with mine since my family only really have Saturday night & Sunday off and his mom has a 9-5 job and his dad is retired so it shouldnt be to bad. It just making sure that we get to spend an equal amount of time with them. Also we debating to use this time to tell them we actually did get married or just say that we are doing it when we get back  Still haven’t made up are mind on that. 

Post # 59
3229 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We just do the Holidays with my family since DH’s family is not really invovled in our life.  

Post # 60
4655 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@AnonymousCupcake:  One of the great yet sad at the same time things about living on the other side of the planet… we don’t have to split the holidays because we don’t see anyone’s family. We each get in a skype session or what have you and then spend thanksgiving working (not a holiday here) and Christmas laying about watching television and ordering pizza.

Post # 61
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Our’s gets kind of complicated, because we have to split everything THREE ways since my parents are divorced.  Also, my birthday is the same week as Thanksgiving, ocassonally landing on the day itself, so I tend to change my plans from year to year so I don’t get stuck in the car/away from all my friends on whatever day my birthday lands on.

Luckily, my dad lives very close to DH’s parents.  My mom lives about 200 miles away from them, so we’re going to visit her for the weekend before Christmas for presents and a family dinner.  Then go back home for just one night (ugh Wednesday Christmas this year) then go see everyone else.  We’ll spend Christmas Eve with my dad’s family, then the day with DH’s.

For Thanksgiving, my dad is actually going to DH’s family party with us!  And we’ll probably go to my mom’s for Thanksgiving next year.

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