(Closed) How are you splitting the holidays?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 62
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@AnonymousCupcake:  Here’s our split:

Thanksgiving: We’re traveling to Europe with my family for a vacation

Christmas Eve: We’ll have both of our families over to our house

Christmas Day: We usually go to my parent’s first, then head over to his parent’s at night (they live only a few blocks apart)

NYE: With friends

Post # 63
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@AnonymousCupcake:  We decided to be selfish this year since it’s our first married holiday season.  It helps that Christmas falls in the middle of the week so one day traveling isn’t going to happen.  Thanksgiving Day and Christmas Day will be just the two of us and we’re planning to enjoy the days at Universal riding roller coasters.

We will probably see my mom and stepdad the weekend before Christmas because she likes to meet up between my birthday (Dec 16) and Christmas to do dinner and exchange gifts.

We’re trying to get my dad and stepmom to join my husband’s parents for Christmas dinner the weekend after Christmas.  This is going to be tough on my dad because he absolutely loves Christmas and he will be disappointed not to spend Christmas Day itself with us.

Post # 64
6109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@AnonymousCupcake:  First year ever – we are not flying ANYWHERE! 


This is a first in all my 37 years I will not be with my family or ILs for Christmas!


Normally we flew to his parents for Christmas, and then my family for January for Faux Christmas (something we started years ago when my sisters were nurses and always worked on Christmas day).

So we will be home for Christmas.  What are we doing to do?  Ski!  Seriously I don’t do trees, ornaments, decorating – nothing.  It will be a regular old vacation day for us.


Post # 65
1153 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

DH only has 4 people in his family so spending the holidays with them is no fun in my opinion because we usually have 35-40 people/family members at our holiday dinners. DH’s sister is stuck working this year in Colorado so its just his parents & 90 y/o grandma who lives in a home for seniors she’s not mobile enough for us to take her out/pack her in a car. So DH’s parents said they were going to go visit her on Thanksgiving & then just hang out. With that being said we invited them to spend thanksgiving with my family (we live 1 hour away) – to which they responded that they’d be spending thanksgiving with grandma. (Whatever, they just don’t want to spend it with a big group of people.) Anywho, we are going to my aunts house for turkey day & will have a feast, it’s always a ton of fun & good times. DH works on Xmas eve so we are going to do xmas eve dinner in town with my family, xmas morning together in our home and drive to see his gma and have xmas dinner with his parents. They of course have asked us to spend the night (I seriously can’t stand doing this) and we are going to say no since DH has to work the next day. DH’s parents are coming up on dec 21 for our big prime rib/salmon family dinner but have asked that they have dinner with us some time between now and then since they won’t get to spend much time with us at our dinner on the 21st. We are going to see them 4 days later but they want to see us before the dinner too. SO annoying! (Now that I’m pregnant they want to get together with us for dinner all of the time).

Post # 66
1369 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We don’t split the holidays. DH and I live on the other side of the country from our families. We can’t afford to travel during the holidays – airfare is soooo expensive.

DH’s mom is coming to visit us for Christmas.

Post # 67
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

Thanksgiving with my family, Christmas with his family. Thanksgiving is a huge deal for my folks, so it makes more sense to be with them. DH’s family does a big party around Christmas time, and they don’t make as much of a deal over which one we choose, so it works. Happy Holidays!

Post # 68
2564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

This year we’re spending both holidays with his family – on years where we visit my hometown we spend it with my family.

Post # 69
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

We spend Christmas eve with my dad, step-mom & step-family (30+ people), then Christmas day with my mom and step-dad and his adult kids then leave at noon for the 4 hour drive to FI’s parents where we spend the rest of our holidays. New years day is usually with the immediate family on step-mom’s side. We’ve been doing that for 3 years and no one seems to feel ripped off, so it works! haha things will change drastically once we have kids though, I don’t know what we’ll do!

Post # 70
6515 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AnonymousCupcake:  I am so glad I don’t have an issue with splitting the holidays. My mother goes to her BFs house (I don’t speak to her BF), and so I get together with my mom a few days before Thanksgiving/Christmas and then I spend the actual holiday with my inlaws. THis is our first year as a married couple so we are doing the holidays at our apartment. I invited my mom but she declined telling me that she has to go to her BFs house. You would think that she would want to at least drive by to say hi being that its our first holiday together as a married couple.

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