How are you splitting the wedding expenses? Who is paying for what?

posted 7 months ago in Logistics
Post # 46
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315 posts
Helper bee

We were going to pay for everything, but then my mom got over-involved and so my parents started pitching in. By the end they must have contributed about 8k (venue, food, drinks, my dress, flowers, other wedding gifts). Husband’s parents refused to give us money for anything except $500 worth of additional last minute (day before wedding) drink tickets – my mom was so pissed they didn’t want to help pay for food but wanted to pay for people getting hammered lol. His family was about 2/3 of the people and my side was 1/3 (mostly old folks and really kids). Husband’s parents then renovated our bathroom as a wedding gift while we were on our honeymoon, probably spent around 3-5k. We ended up paying about 5k for our wedding and 5k for our honeymoon. 

Post # 47
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

My parents have offered to pay for the venue and caterer. If they hadn’t, my SO and I would have been comfortable paying everything for a wedding with a small guest list. Since my parents are paying for the food and the space, they can invite whomever they want (up to the 150 guest limit for the venue). 

I bought my dress and will be paying for anything else for myself and my attendants (if I have them and if they need to buy anything for the wedding).

My SO and I will be paying for the photographer, music, chairs and other rentals, honeymoon, and anything else. Between the two of us we’ll just contribute half each. And since he paid for my engagement ring, I plan on offering to pay for both of our wedding bands. 

Post # 48
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956 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

chillbee29 :  For the wedding I’ll probably end up putting in 70%, but if you factor in what he paid for the ring we are probably about 50/50.

I can save easier than him because I have a side business. So I dont look at it like my money or his. WE save, and whatever WE have is what WE spend for OUR wedding. Hope that makes sense lol

Post # 49
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685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I paid for my outfit and jewelery, he paid for his outfit. We split the bill for food, transportation, decoration, flowers. I think I paid the stationery both because I earn more and because I forgot to keep track.

Both our parents offered money but I really didn’t want my mum to have a say in number of guests, food choices etc. When she offered to pay for the honeymoon, we gratefully accepted. His parents offered to pay for the food and drinks but we thought they were expecting a much smaller bill than planned, so we asked them to pay for our wedding rings which were quite inexpensive.

Post # 51
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

We were paying for everything, we don’t keep our finances seperate so it’s not a case of him or I. My mumma bought my dress and accessories, my bm’s dress and fg’s dresses. His dad bought all the boys their kilts and paid for our magician. It was their choice, we did not ask for it but it’s greatly appreciated. Everything else we’ve paid for ourself. Parents paying is really old school tradition and IMO I wouldn’t want the reliance of that money to dictate my wedding. 

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