Post # 1
Now that the wedding hoopla is all over and we are back to real life, I find myself wanting to work on our marriage to make it stronger. Is that weird? I am cooking more, planning little dates, just little things, really.
Is anyone else doing this, or do you find being married more of a passive state? Sorry if this seems like a vague question.
Post # 3
Nope–marriage is, and always has been, work 🙂
Post # 4
Well, I find healthy and fulfilling relationships require active participation from both parties to stay connected, alive to each other, to remain engaged, to nourish the relationship and yourselves, to remain curious about each other, to continue to learn & grow, and so forth. This was the case before AND after our wedding!
But I definitely did not start cooking more after we married!
Post # 5
@RayKay: I agree.
I don’t really do much different than before we were married, because we lived as if we were married long before we were. We’ve always tried to make an extra effort every day to make the other feel loved, needed etc. We’ve always cooked for each other, done nice things for each other. Getting married just made our bond stronger because now we’re family & we realize we have something much more important to protect/nurture- our vows & the well being of our future family.
Post # 6
Rach, I love the way you put that!
Post # 7
Since we got married we’ve moved because I got a full-time position and Darling Husband quit his job. Now’s he’s being the homemaker and I’m sort of loving it. Role reversal. My house husband doesn’t cook though, so we’re eating out a lot.