(Closed) How are your feelings for your FI different?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

For me there was an amazing difference…very exciting time it was! 

When I met him, I felt like…wow, this is what a REAL man is. Also, I had never enjoyed anyone’s arms around me as much as with Fiance. 

He made every other guy I dated seem like huge db’s. I can’t even really explain it. Also, I just kinda felt suddenly like everytime I was with him, it was like having VIP in life…like everything always went smoothly it felt like. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think there were two main differences:
1) I was willing to make changes/sacrifices in my life that I was unwilling to make for anyone else, and
2) I stopped keeping track of how long we’d been together!  I used to be a “four and a half months!” type, and with Fi, well … I don’t really know. I guess … two years and something? Who can remember?!?!?!  Because staying with him isn’t an accomplishment; it’s just something I do and that I intend to keep doing! Smile

Of course, we’ll count years married, but that’s mostly for everyone else’s sake … and maybe for the sake of a nice dinner out every year Wink

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Fiance is the one and only person I’ve dated that I have such a deep sense of trust.

 I always used to be the girl who could be with a guy for months and months and let go easily. Even when I had strong feelings for someone I tried to always keep at least one toe out the door because there was just something about them or our relationship that I didn’t 100% trust.

With Fiance I found true security, stability, and peace of mind for the first time. His character and actions in the past show his true colors, one of which is unfaltering, unconditional loyalty. He has stood by people in his life who have done unforgivabe things. People I would have walked away from.

Its not in his nature to walk away. My heart felt so safe with him, it just came so naturally. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My feelings are different because I trust him enough to be my WHOLE self. I never had to be anyone but me around him. I can cry, fart, be makeup-less, do a stupid dance, sing everything I do, be an art geek, gush over fuzzy animals…and he won’t dare raise a single brow and think I’m weird. Instead, he smiles and says he loves me! Smile

With other guys I had to be who they wanted me to be. I know I love him because there is no wall up between us.

I Won’t poo in front of him yet (or ever) and he’s a little upset about that…Embarassed

Edit: I knew within one month of knowing him, and he has never let me down all these years later. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I felt respected, loved and 100% backed. I could trust him with my entire being. 

It wasn’t known to me immediately because we were both teens then and I didn’t know what I was supposed to be looking for at the time. =)

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

He just made me so happy. There’s never any drama and when we argue, he does it in a way that isn’t horrible and doesn’t put me down. When we argue, I’m able to reign in my temper and I almost never say mean, hurtful things (I did this alot to an ex). Sitting around the house with him is fun for me. I love to budget our money and figure out ways to make our household better and I always think about what’s best for him. I can act any way I want around him and he accepts it when I just want to be held. I LOVE taking care of him when he’s sick or hurting (like now when he’s sunburned and peeling).

Truthfully, he amazes me. Before him, I never understood how someone acted when they loved someone truly and deeply and he shows me everyday. I never have to wonder who he’s talking to or what he’s doing when he’s away. He never tries to make me jealous or flirt with other women, but he does admit that he tends to be flirtatious but he doesn’t even notice when he is (he’s never that way to other women around me). In fact, yesterday we were in starbucks and a girl walked in with an arm sleeve tattoo, long dark hair, an itty bitty strapless dress and high heels on and I think I checked her out more than he did! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

There is absolutely a difference! 

With Fiance, the relationship hasn’t ever felt forced, and I have never felt like I’ve had to work for it. I know they say every relationship takes work, and that’s certainly true, but in past relationships, I would always feel like I had to keep proving myself worthy. I would feel like I had to work to keep the spark alive, sacrifice to keep the relationship going, act or look a certain way, hide certain facets of myself, etc.

With Fiance, it is just…easy. We just fit. There’s no worrying about how to act, what to say, how to look. I never, ever feel worried/paranoid/insecure. He makes me feel like the most amazing, important person in the world, and he makes me feel safe and secure. 

I can 100% be myself with him, and he can with me, and we love each other even more because of the weird idiosyncracies that only the two of us know about. 

Add to all that the fact that we have an insanely (possibly inappropriately) good time no matter what we’re doing, and that we’re ridiculously attracted to each other…oh yeah, it’s the real deal. 

I knew within two or three dates that he was “The One.” He claims he started planning a proposal just a few months after we started dating because he was so sure he would marry me. Laughing

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

The night I first met him we talked for about 2 hours at a sorority/fraternity bbq…6 and half years later we are getting married… I just knew within moments that he was a special one and I felt instantly safe with him….a feeling of calm and oasis like. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As I said to Fiance quite soon after we met, I had no filter around him. I didn’t feel like I had to not say or do something because he was there. He likes to snuggle as much as I do and we fit together so well.

In a nutshell it is just EASY. It was never easy with my exes.

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