Post # 17
Honestly, if the ring was not my taste I’d probably ask to swap out the setting. It’s a possession that I will wear on my finger. I’m all for no ring, cheap ring, choosing the ring together, etc., but if my SO is going to spend a bunch of money and I’m going to wear it, it should be something I like.
Post # 18
I think it would have to be too uncomfortable for me to wear before I would ask for a replacement. I find anything set really high or that has stones that poke my other fingers to be really uncomfortable. Also really wide bands because I’m paranoid they’ll get stuck.
But if I had a ring that was okay to wear but I didn’t like, I would be honest if asked but not initiate a conversation about it. If asked ‘so, do you like the ring?” I’m going to say what I think.
Post # 19
@sheepandbear: dm me please! I would love one for a rhr and dh would get a kick out of it too.
Post # 20
@freshflowers: I wouldn’t have said anything. If I really hated the thing I’d wear it now and again and the rest of the time leave it on my ring holder. To me, it is entirely the sentiment that matters.
Post # 21
I really would not be ok with a colored stone. I’ve seen lots of beautiful ones on here and the girls total rock them- but it just doesn’t feel engagement for ME. Another thing would be yellow gold, my family loves it but I am just not a fan. Also a thick band is a no no for me too. I know, I’m so picky! Good thing SO knows what I like!
Post # 22
If it was yellow gold, princess or emerald cut, or a thick channel set band I would ask for a new setting. Maybe a cluster as well, just because having one stone as the most prominent is something that makes it more formal in my eyes. Or if it was a colored gemstone that I didn’t like – I’m happy with moissanite and sapphire, maybe morganite, but I wouldn’t want anything else. Outside of that I certainly have preferences, but I would be happy and would learn to love anything he got me due to its meaning.
My SO is all about making me happy though, so he will not be picking out a ring without hearing my preferences! He’s not the type to go off the path when he already knows what I want. And if it turned out to be something I didn’t like, I’m fairly confident he would be ok with it
Post # 23
If it had nickel in it, or if I scratched myself with it, I’d want to get a new one.
Post # 24
I would honesty be thrilled with anything he gave me! when we started looking at rings, Fiance refused to have any say in the ring. sometimes I read posts on the Bee of ladies whose SOs designed their rings and I’m so envious. oh well, maybe he’ll pick me out an RHR someday!
Post # 25
I probably would have said something if it was too wide, too busy, colored, princess cut, ascher cut, emerald cut, cluster, quad, or yellow gold. Luckily he was listening and nailed it. Simple pave band solitare.
Post # 26
I would want to trade this in:
Post # 27
@freshflowers: I wouldn’t of liked silver or gold filled- gold plated. I really want a real gold band. Anything else would be ok.
Post # 28
I wouldn’t say a word…I’d take any dislike I had for my ring to the grave. My only exception would be if I was allergic to it somehow and it was causing me physical harm.
Post # 29
I asked for a new one and mine is by no means heinous! It was just the setting I wasn’t crazy about … It’s a thick shank (he knew I only like VERY thin ones – but we have different opinions of VERY thin apparently) and plain white gold on the shank, a solitaire. The new one incorporates elements of the old one – the way the diamond sits in the shank will be the same. Basically, the new one is just the old one with some pave, because he knew I wanted a pave setting but wanted to propose sooner than he could afford one. Two years later, we can afford one, so we’re getting one! Keeping the same diamond though.
To ask for a straight-up totally completely different new ring right off the bat would’ve take quite a bit. I can think of a ring that would have made me say “Yes but ….” but I don’t want to describe it because I’ve seen some like it on the boards and don’t want to offend anyone with my weird tastes!
Post # 30
@Kimberley25: I DID say that I would be ok as long as it was a real metal/ stone… but I might take that back…
Real or not, a skull ring is just a big fat NO for me…
Then again, if my Fiance actually picked that for me, I would probably have second thoughts about getting engaged bc the ring would say that he CLEARLY did not know me too well haha
Post # 31
@freshflowers: LOL. I posted that because it was my first thought of “not this ring”! Actually, my first ring I did switch out after three years. My original was a yellow gold, three-stone ring. I absolutely do not wear yellow gold jewelry any more and it didn’t match any of my other jewelry. Traded it in for a white gold solitaire, which we then added a jacket. I was a happy camper after that.