(Closed) How "bad" of a ring would your SO have to give you for…

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@freshflowers:  I don’t know! I was REALLY nervous Fiance was going to get me a ring I hated because I’ve heard stories of that happening to friends. Honestly, the ring he picked out was nothing like I thought I wanted (I told him I wanted blue diamonds and hated an oval shape and my e-ring is an oval sapphire, haha), so I think I’d just know when I saw it. But I do know for sure that I would ask for a different one if the ring was uncomfortable on my hand (heavy, too large, etc) or at least ask for a standin and only wear the actual e-ring on special occasions.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I knew that what ever my husband would have picked out I would have loved. He has good taste and he knows what I like as well. He couldn’t have picked out anything I didn’t like especially because he picked it out. 

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well, we picked out the ring together, so that was never an issue.  Fortunately, we have similar taste – we’re both fond of the clean, elegant and simple look.  I’m pretty solidly in the camp of “it’s a gift, smile and be grateful”.  However, if he picked something like a double halo ring, I think I’d find a way to only wear the wedding band most of the time.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I’d ask for another ring if the center was too small or if the center was any sort of lab created stone. Other than that, I’m sure I would’ve liked any ring my husband picked out.  Luckily he nailed it on his first try 🙂

Post # 36
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

If it wasn’t a diamond, I would not have been happy. 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee

Anything that wasnt one I picked… Or equally amazeballs.

 A jewelry fiend, if I’m wearing it every day it had better be perfect. He understands and accepts this about me, thank GAWD!

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My only requirement was it had to fit, which is easily fixed no matter what. I didn’t want a ring that cut off circulation to my fingers.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

If it wasn’t to my taste AND he didn’t have a good reason for picking that ring out. If he had clearly put thought and love into the choice I would probably live with it but if he was all ‘the showed me 10 and I picked this one’ I wouldn’t feel bad asking for a change. 

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

I would be happy with almost anything except maybe those big clunky yellow gold marquis rings of the 80s/90s. I would have been fine with yellow gold, it’s just the clunkiness that would physically bother me. I also think marquises would not be practical because I can see the pointed ends catching in my hair, on fabrics, and scratching myself/others. So, basically practicality and comfort issues.

As far as looks… Maybe I’d request an upgrade from a cluster to a full stone? Maybe? Probably not… I don’t think I could ever have the heart to ask that.

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My husband and I looked at rings together and I told him what I wanted, leaving specifics up to him in all ways- 3/4 ct round solitaire in white gold, nothing fancy. I was adamant about white gold, definitely wanted a round or princess (my ring from my ex husband was a marquise so I wanted to steer clear from it), but whatever he wanted to give me was going to be perfect.

In the end, he gave me his mom’s ring. She passed last year and I never met her. The ring was simple and exactly what I wanted- except for the fact that it was yellow gold and marquise. I never once thought about telling him I wanted something different. For an only child, raised by his mother, for him to give me his mom’s ring meant the world to me. When I was married before, I looked at different rings because my ex suggested upgrading. I like jewelry, I like diamonds. Can’t help it, I like shiny 🙂  Now, I couldn’t imagine getting a different ring. I wouldn’t trade it.

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I do love all jewelry…  But, for my engagement ring I always wanted a solitaire.  My fiance would not know what the heck a solitaire was.  I would very much dislike yellow gold.  I only do white gold.  I would also not be very pleased if my ring was to dainty or small in stone size cuz thats just not me.  The ring I have is me and thats what I find important.

Post # 43
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Busy bee

Even if I slightly disliked it, I’d tell him I want a different ring. He’d understand.  

I am very particular which is why I’m designing my ring. It’s so hard to know what I want, so I can’t imagine how hard it’d be for him.

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@freshflowers:  I’ll be honest. In reference to quality: if I felt like he got ripped off with the ring he bought I would tell him. I wouldn’t want him to spend a lot of money on something I really didn’t want to wear. In reference to style: if it was a well made ring with a quality stone and I didn’t like the setting I’d probably just suck it up, love it because he gave it to me, and not say anything (unless it was actually uncomfortable to wear, which is what happened with  my first wedding band). He knows we have completely different tastes in jewelry so he doesn’t pick it out for me anymore. 

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would only say something if it was really bulky and gaudy, a quad/cluster, or princess cut.

Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@Kimberley25:  haha I’d trade that in too! the ring would have to be pretty terrible for me not to like it as I love anything that sparkles. I love my ring and I couldn’t imagine having to wear something I didn’t like EVERY day for the rest of my life!  

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