Post # 62
@jenilynevette: I don’t think everyone that hates clusters has actually had one or has seen on it in different lighting conditions. I have a floral cluster diamond ring that I wear on my RH middle finger and it’s super pretty, and VERY sparkly. More sparkly than my GIA XXX high clarity diamond, so go figure. It does give the illusion of a larger stone from far away, but who cares? It cost more than a 4mm moissy on a platinum band, so why is one liked on the bee and the other one so openly disliked?
I think this attitude really sucks. If I had a cluster e-ring, I’d probably not even post about it for fear of getting snarky comments.
Post # 63
I would be unhappy with any diamond that was of such poor quality that it would just never look good in any setting. As the old saying goes, you can’t polish a turd! I would hope he would research what a good quality stone looks like.
Post # 64
@letigre: Oh, I don’t mind them. I actually own what is considered to be a cluster [they are separated though].
I only mentioned clusters because it seems anytime there is a cluster related pole, 50% or more of the bee don’t like them.
Post # 65
@jenilynevette: I like clusters (floral ones) the only ones that throw me are the square with 4 little diamonds in the center. to me, it looks like the diamond cracked or something haha
Post # 66
I would be unhappy with anything fragile enough not to last a lifetime – yes, that means silver. It’s important to me that my e-ring be a piece that I can wear for the rest of my life. Besides, 10k gold isn’t much more expensive than silver if you know where to look, so would be less of a money issue than it would seem to be at first.
Otherwise, I have my preferences, but I probably wouldn’t ask for another ring unless the one I was wearing bugged me, and I can’t say what that would be, since I’m not engaged yet.
Post # 67
@freshflowers: For me it would have to do with comfort. If he got me a big, bulky ring I probably just wouldn’t wear it, however I’m not a jewelry person so not having a ring isn’t a big deal to me. Fortunately, we picked out my ring together, so I got exactly what I wanted.
Post # 68
@freshflowers: I am not a simple kinda girl so as much as i love “classic” rings on other women’s hands and might rock 1 as a rhr…. as a ring I would be wearing forever pretty much it had to be different. Fiance would never buy a ring withot me though. He pretty much told me I had no choice but to go with him ring shopping. I’m picky if I’m looking for something in particular it could take forever lol. So ther was alot of rings I turned down out of the 8 stores we checked out by time as we went in the last store I was over rign shopping honestly lol. My ring is actually a whole set at the store earings pendent and ring I love it though it isn’t very common haven’t seen anyone with it and Fiance still ended up picking it out all I did was say I love it lol.
Post # 69
I can honestly say that my husband had a very good idea of what I liked and what suited me and he definitely knew the cuts/styles/stones that wouldn’t fly. So, given that, if he had chosen a ring for me without my input, I would most definitely love it or learn to love it if it wasn’t *exactly* what I wanted since it would be reasonably close. I would tell him if there were unacceptable flaws in the ring, like the setting was faulty or some such.
Having said all that, we went shopping and chose together so clearly I was going to love my ring since I had final decision making power. Though, the first time we went shopping we went to a huge store (Spence in Canada) and we went in different directions to “find the ring” and both that we came back with would have been perfect for me, yet totally different. Sometimes he knows me better than I know myself haha.
Post # 70
For me it’s not a question of whether it’s a bad ring or a good ring.
If I didn’t love it, if it wasn’t my taste, if I didn’t feel happy looking at it…. I would ask for a new one. Period.
I’m the one wearing it, I’m the one who needs to love it.
I would never ask or expect DH to just accept a ring I’d chosen without his input, and then wear it every day for the rest of his life…. I expect the same consideration.
Post # 71
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@MrsPanda99: I completely agree with you about the divorce rate. However, some people just want a ring that they’ll enjoy looking at and wearing everyday. Some people care about what their rings look like, others don’t. That doesn’t necessarily mean that those who care about it will get divorced. Though I have met some people who only cared about the ring and wedding, and didn’t think very much about the other person. But again, that doesn’t mean that those who DO care about those things are solely materialistic or going to get divorced.
…That was a bunch of rambling. That’s why I shouldn’t type and watch TV at the same time lol.
Post # 72
@freshflowers: I don’t want to come off as materialistic, but I would be annoyed if my fiancé got me a ring that wasn’t my taste. He’s spending a lot of money on a ring, I would hope that he would buy one for me that I liked and is my taste. I don’t know if I would be able to hide my disappointment if he had bought me something that I didn’t Like.
My my fiancé knew this about me and picked out something for me that I told him that I liked and wanted. It would have been silly (IMO) to spend thousands of dollars on something that I didn’t lie.
Post # 73
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@letigre: +1 I wouldn’t want a quad/cluster for my engagement ring (I just fell in love with a solitaire, that’s why), but I have one for my promise ring. It sparkles more than every solitaire I’ve ever seen in real life. Unless someone was right up on my hand, they’d never know it was a quad.
Post # 74
@MrsPanda99: I tend to agree with you. I thought it was kind of a fun concept to just see what my Fiance picked out for me all on his own. He knows me, I trust him to get something nice. For me it made it so much more special and exciting to see what he got me because I literally had NO expectations. (he IS a jewler, so maybe that helped me trust him lol, but I probably would have felt the same way either way. As long as I trusted my man to do his research on diamond quality)
I feel like it’d be somewhat boring to know exactly what is going to be in the ring box, but that is just me.
That being said, I definitely understand the reasoning of it being such an expensive purchase and making sure that money is spent on something you’ll actually love. I cannot personally relate to being so specific about what I want though. If I recall correctly, before getting engaged my idea of “EXACTLY what I want” changed constantly as I saw different pictures haha.
I do think that there are a shocking number of women out there who do care more about the ring/wedding than the man. I don’t mean that this is the case if you have a specific ring in mind. But I do agree about how overhyped weddings and rings are contribute to the divorce rate
Post # 75
@jenilynevette: I totally get what your saying that was one of the things I told Fiance that I didn’t want a cluster and I’m as surpised as you are not seeing it here aswell. However that was because all the ones I’ve seen were I’m from or the old styles that I didn’t like very much. My ring is actually a cluster. It’s 4 small diamonds in the center with a ‘halo’ of smaller diamonds around it set in white gold and then a double halo along with the the band set in rose gold. It shines like crazy and I love it. and I think after discribing my ring I think it falls in with alot of the rings other bees would trade in lol thick band, double halo, bulky, cluster lol ppl like what they like and others don’t. I rather see the ring itself then get a discription because some things might sound just horrible on paper but are quite beautiful in real life.
Post # 76
@freshflowers: I would know if I loved it within the first few hours, haha. If I didnt, I would say something. Some deal breakers would be yellow gold band, super skinny band or a round diamond. None of these look good on me. My SO would be heartbroken if he thought he did a good job but I disliked the ring, so telling him ASAP woukd be best. BUT this is why I was vocal. He asked what I liked and I laid it on him!