(Closed) How "bad" of a ring would your SO have to give you for…

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 107
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@MrsPanda99:  I understand, and agree somewhat. It’s just a little frustrating because to see the word “entitlement” thrown around (by everyone, not just you), because that’s not always what it is. I love my SO, I know our relationship is #1, and I’ll always have that attitude. However, as someone who cares about fashion and what I wear (including jewlery), I want the most important piece of jewelery that I own to be something that I truly love, not that I’m pretending to love or trying to love. I can’t help it that I have picky tastes as far as appearances go, but that doesn’t mean I feel entitled or I’m selfish. My SO 100% knew this going into it, and when the time came he even said he wanted me to design it because he wants me to have a ring that I love, and he knows how nitpicky I am with details (color of the metal, height of it, etc.). 

Post # 108
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is where I wouldr draw the line

 

Post # 109
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Buzzing bee

I know my SO has my ring, and it’s the one I wanted. I have been upfront with him since the beginning: I like white gold or platinum, want a ruby, small, etc.. I would be kind of sad if he gave me a rose/yellow gold ring with a humungous aquamarine gem in it or something LOL. It would be more about the fact that he didn’t listen that would upset me and make me want another ring. If he listened to what my requests were, but maybe ended up with something that wasn’t exactly my style I would wear it just because I would know that he put a lot of thought into it.

Post # 110
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@mrspinesol:  I’m picky about a lot of things, but not gifts. I was raised to be grateful for gifts, not to ask for new ones or specific ones. There are so many more important things in life that rings don’t even make my list. We all have our own priorities and this just isn’t one for me. I don’t care what anyone else spends their money on though or how they run their relationships. 

It was just my opinion. Not trying to change yours 🙂 

Post # 111
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@MrsPanda99:  ah! I guess that’s probably why out opinions differ: I don’t view my ring as a gift. I can see how it would be in some situations, but in our situation, it was a mutual decision and a mutual purchase that was picked out and bought together. So, it’a a totally different situation. 

Edit: I just talked my SO about it and he said the exact same thing: “I can see how it would be, but in our case it was more of a mutual committment and decision”. 

Post # 112
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We picked out my ring together, but I know the hubs sort of wanted to go his own route, and even if he had I had already given all of my desired specs to my cousin and told the hubs to ask her when the time came. But we ended up going to pick it out together anyways.

 

BUT…. if he had gone completely on his own the things that would make me want to change it would be a super small stone (sorry, but I have a size 7 fingers and prefer at least a .75 to 1 carat size), a cluster ring, an extremely high setting, or something that was just not me in style.

 

Post # 113
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@mrspinesol:  Well, the marriage is a mutual commitment and decision, of course. The ring I see as a gift that symbolizes that. I don’t see the ring as the commitment and the purchase of it was my husband’s choice. I said I was fine without one. I certainly don’t care enough about it to pay for it. I’d wear and eat an onion ring before I did that. 

Post # 114
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@freshflowers:  Something that was uncomfortable – like, if it had pointy bits that caught on everything or hurt my fingers.

I was pretty nervous about getting the ‘right’ ring because after all, I am planning on wearing it for the rest of my life. So DH and I picked it together!

Post # 115
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn

My partner allowed me to select my own engagment ring because it’s such a personal piece of jewlery. She wanted me to love it for a lifetime, and I love what I’ve selected and so does she! That being said we have such similar tastes in jewlery that I think she would have done an excellent job if she selected it on her own. She knew the basics: No wide bands, no diamonds as the main stone, no yellow gold.

Post # 116
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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@MrsPanda99:  different opinions! 

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