- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
This is where I wouldr draw the line
I know my SO has my ring, and it’s the one I wanted. I have been upfront with him since the beginning: I like white gold or platinum, want a ruby, small, etc.. I would be kind of sad if he gave me a rose/yellow gold ring with a humungous aquamarine gem in it or something LOL. It would be more about the fact that he didn’t listen that would upset me and make me want another ring. If he listened to what my requests were, but maybe ended up with something that wasn’t exactly my style I would wear it just because I would know that he put a lot of thought into it.
It was just my opinion. Not trying to change yours 🙂
Edit: I just talked my SO about it and he said the exact same thing: “I can see how it would be, but in our case it was more of a mutual committment and decision”.
We picked out my ring together, but I know the hubs sort of wanted to go his own route, and even if he had I had already given all of my desired specs to my cousin and told the hubs to ask her when the time came. But we ended up going to pick it out together anyways.
BUT…. if he had gone completely on his own the things that would make me want to change it would be a super small stone (sorry, but I have a size 7 fingers and prefer at least a .75 to 1 carat size), a cluster ring, an extremely high setting, or something that was just not me in style.
@freshflowers: Something that was uncomfortable – like, if it had pointy bits that caught on everything or hurt my fingers.
I was pretty nervous about getting the ‘right’ ring because after all, I am planning on wearing it for the rest of my life. So DH and I picked it together!
My partner allowed me to select my own engagment ring because it’s such a personal piece of jewlery. She wanted me to love it for a lifetime, and I love what I’ve selected and so does she! That being said we have such similar tastes in jewlery that I think she would have done an excellent job if she selected it on her own. She knew the basics: No wide bands, no diamonds as the main stone, no yellow gold.
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