Post # 32
I’m only weighing in on the milk part..because personally I think drinking another species milk is unnatural and weird and don’t want to be judged for not giving my kid milk. Numerous studies have shown that western civilizations with the highest rates of milk drinking also have higher rates of osteporosis in older age. Milk is also strongly associated with numerous childhood allergies.
My kids won’t be drinking milk. We’ll be having smoothies with lots of leafy greens and getting calcium the same way cows do.
Just saying…don’t judge someone on the milk thing! There are many reasons people would choose to avoid it!
Post # 33
Me too. Many people don’t understand the benefits of play.
*cough* And I hoped inserting this might relieve some of the tension on this! *cough*
Post # 34
@mrsmjm – That may be true that there are reasons to avoid it such as allergies or personal beleifs. Milk itself won’t make or break someone’s diet as healthy or unhealthy. (I have no idea if the family I used as an example drinks milk or what kind; the milk comment was related to what my mom has mentioned she’s seen change in schools and speculated to possible causes of why kids seem to “break” so much more easily now than they did 20 years ago.)
But living on food like mac & cheese, hot dogs, and soda pop… that type of diet is obviously lacking some essential nutrients. (Note: this is a generalized comment, lots of families unfortuantely live off of processed food like this; whether it be for convenience, low-cost, etc.)
Post # 35
@takemyhand – Thank you for understanding what I was trying to get across with this post. Not “I’m going to judge this family”, but “kids need to play!“.
Post # 37
OP while I agree with the premis of your post, that children should be given healthy food and allowed to play, I don’t realy see the point. On the bee there are so many posts about how mom’s get judged constantly and how hard it is. Then we have a post here just to judge a mom. I’ts not your kid, so don’t worry about it and frankly the rest of the bee doesn’t need to know about it.
Post # 38
@PuntaCanaBride – The point was to talk about kids’ health and well-being, not to judge an individual family. (In fact, I stated in my original post that the intent was not to be “judgy”, and put in bold that it was about playing!) Nobody is perfect. But the fact kids break so easily now, and that almost all the kids surveyed at the children’s hospital I work at don’t go outside, I find alarming and something I think it’s good to talk about!
This (benefits of playing on physical development) is the type of thing the children’s hospital I work at would feature as an article in the monthly mini-magazine sent to parents.
This is also a topic that the children’s hospital has sent lobbyists to the state capital for: to keep recess and gym class in schools for the benefit to the kids’ physical and mental health, test scores (exercise/movement is linked to better learning), etc.
It’s an important topic!
Post # 39
My stepson is 37 and he was a kid who had no physical coordination, had no interest in riding a bike,learning to skate, play baseball…or anything else that required him to be active. He was happy sitting with his video games and in front of his computer, and his Mother saw nothing wrong with it, so never encouraged him to participate in anything that made him move. This couch potato business has been going on for a long time now, but what do you DO with a kid who refuses to get going? You can encourage and suggest all you want, but some of them will sit inside and read books or play board games no matter what you try. You never knew anyone like that?
Of course all kids need to play, but the being over-protective part and broken bones has nothing to do with anything except supposition on your part. You can break your ankle stepping off a curb the wrong way.
Post # 40
western civilization also has the highest consumption of acidic products like pop which weaken bone density. We are also more likely to be overweight, which means mores weight on our bones and likely a less nutrient-dense diet. Don’t blame the milk. And we played hard as kids too, but some kids are just more accident prone. We never got hurt jumping from swings, but I had a friend break her elbow in two places.
Post # 41
I don’t think how they are raising their son is any of your busines. Like PP have said, you don’t know if he had a disease and that’s why he’s prevented from doing things and/or has broken bones. I had 5 broken bones by the time I was 6. Unless they are doing something completely unacceptable, then you should mind your own business. They have their reasons…
Post # 43
I have to agree with the PP this really isn’t your concern. This child is not your child even though you say you are not “judging” are you indeed juding this family by just posting about his family.
It is very had to be a parent when people are constantly judging how they raise a child.
Post # 44
@BoiledPNut & @Sassygrn –
I have said from the very first post that this isn’t about juding this individual family, it’s about an epidemic of kids not playing and how it can have negative consequences. The kid with the 3rd broken arm just reminded me of this topic, it was a jumping-off point.
This is NOT about the individual kid, it’s about how nation-wide kids don’t play anymore! And how that affects kids’ health (the population as a whole).
Don’t get so fixated on the fear of someone “judging” (even though I posted numerous times, starting with the my initial post, it wasn’t about judging anybody), and look at the BIG PICTURE!
Post # 45
Because it’s easy enough to start a topic about an epidemic of inactive/obese/whatever kids without citing multiple examples of a family you only know from a blog and a party. That’s why people are taking this as you unfairly judging parents you barely know.
Post # 46
@KatyElle – I apologize if it came off that way. That wasn’t my intention.