How best to correct SO

posted 8 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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  • Wedding: December 2017

lauralaura123 :  Some constructive advice:  We all have topics we are sensitive to, and can sometimes overreact to.  If he says something like that, that makes you upset/ uncomfortable, then have a quick look around the room.  People in a casual party-like setting rarely have poker faces on (especially if they’ve been drinking) so if no one else reacts (such as raised eyebrows, looks of disgust etc) then it either wasn’t an offensive enough comment that you need to mention it to him or it was only you who was offended.  In either of these situations, I would file it away for later, and maybe mention on the drive home how it upset you, so that you can deal with it between the two of you.

If he said someting truly offensive, such as “and so women are useless after age 50, because they can no longer have kids” or “18 year old women should be required to marry 80 year old men since they can keep having kids” then by all means call him on it on the spot, but in that case I bet you wouldn’t be the only one, if you’re among friends!

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