(Closed) How best to respond to this message?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

First, major hugs if you want them. This isn’t easy stuff to deal with. Second, I’m not entirely sure how you should respond to your friend – would you feel comfortable inviting her to your place, or somewhere you’re comfortable, for a quick snack/cup of coffee? You can talk over that with ease, and there’s no worry about being impaired from alcohol. But only do that if it sounds like what you want to do – otherwise, just tell her you’re having a hard time and would love to catch up later, when you have more time/less stress. Third, I think you should look into counseling for your anxiety – it sounds like it’s taking over your life, which isn’t cool, and a counselor (and possibly medication, if you want/need) can help stop that. But make sure you like your counselor (I didn’t know I could just not go back after one appointment if I didn’t want to at first – but it’s totally cool to do that, I know now!).

I’m sure other Bees have had to deal with counselors/therapy for various issues (for me it is SEVERE depression) and some might even have some useful ideas for you to deal with your anxiety.

Post # 5
999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Deejayelle:  oh I can’t stand people or so called friends who aren’t honest up front with me, I don’t read minds and can’t guess. Also I have a life and won’t always jump to a friends rescue unless severely needed. Friends should be able to be open and communicate freely, no holding grudges nor giving stupid silent treatments. Get over it and let her know. I think you are being unfair.

Post # 6
1329 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Deejayelle:  It sounds like you may have hit the nail on the head when you said your thinking may be clouding your feelings about this situation. You said it yourself, this is typical communication mode for the two of you. Nothing has changed but you.

Please get some medication. This is not healthy and it’s not necessary.

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