(Closed) How big is it??

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’ve always just told (mine is 2.07)- it’s not like they can’t tell already, right?  But then again, nobody has asked in a way that bothers me.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i don’t have a clue. i never asked.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Surprisingly I didnt get asked that very often.  My e-ring is just under a carat (apparently the jump from .8 or .9 to a full carat in terms of price is ridiculous!)  So I just told people it was just under a carat.  I think its nosy and inappropriate to ask as well but it doenst bother me personally.  I dont ask people how much money they make (unless its my good friend hehe)

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m fine telling people what size the diamond is, because I think that’s pretty plain, but I would NEVER tell them how much it cost.  That truly is no one’s business.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Nobody’s really asked how big. Depending on who asked and how they asked, I’d either tell them how big or tell them to mind their own business.

My cousin saw a picture of it and he said it should be bigger. That’s the only rude remark I’ve gotten about it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

No one has asked me that.  I actually had to think about the answer.  So now I think if anyone did ask, I’d say, “FI told me, but we’ve been engaged so long I forgot.”  True enough.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i’d probably answer big enough that i said yes 😛

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I love crebre80’s suggestion! Or you could say “You know, I didn’t even ask!” or “You should ask him!” I would be light and breezy about it. When my close friends asked I was happy to tell them, but I’m also put off when people I’m not close to ask me (my coworkers, for example). I think if you kindly give a cheeky response (a la crebre80’s above) it gently puts people in their place.

 

It IS shocking, though, isn’t it? How invasive people can be? I’ve had people I’ve just met ask me not only how big it is, but what color and what clarity – its like they are trying to tally up the cost in their head!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

3.75 carats. Peoples’ eyes widen. They don’t have to know what we paid for it and how amazing of a deal we got (family in the business, woot)

I also get comments eluding to it being “gaudy” and “is that even real?” and comments like, “he must love you way too much”

Oh, my favorite: “how old is he?” LOL.

He just knows i’m a jewelry wh0re, lol Tongue out

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I don’t get asked much unless they’re being jerks. I think my total carat weight is maybe .25. Mostly people just ask “Um…why is it so….small?”.

To which I respond, “Why are you so….rude?”

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I always just tell them. 2+ carats is the norm in our circle, so it’s not a big deal. I don’t know why it’s a problem, unless you’re ashamed. Which you shouldn’t be, since it was given to you by the love of your life and it’s beautiful no matter what!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’ve only had maybe one person ask that but I just laughed and admitted that I had no idea.  Less than 1 carat is the best I’ve got.  

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

No one has ever asked me that. I would be so ticked off if they did!

Post # 16
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Worker bee

I think telling people the size of your diamond is telling them how much it costs. It at least gives them a rough estimate. I think that’s why the question bothers me, because I feel like they are indirectly asking, “How much did he spend on your ring?” Please, if someone tells me their diamond is 1 carat, I have a pretty good idea of the price range. Sure things like color and clarity will affect the value, but there is still a ballpark range. I guess that’s why it seems rude to me. I wouldn’t mind a close friend asking me that, but a stranger? Purlease! Smile

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