Post # 1
Haha, okay ladies seriously – what is your response to the question I always get “How many carats is that??”
Yes, my ring is over 2 carats. But I don’t want to tell people that!! It’s not that I’m ashamed, I just feel so tacky even talking about it!! It doesn’t matter how big it is, I think that’s a completely inappropriate question.
So what is your response??
Post # 3
I’ve always just told (mine is 2.07)- it’s not like they can’t tell already, right? But then again, nobody has asked in a way that bothers me.
Post # 4
i don’t have a clue. i never asked.
Post # 5
Surprisingly I didnt get asked that very often. My e-ring is just under a carat (apparently the jump from .8 or .9 to a full carat in terms of price is ridiculous!) So I just told people it was just under a carat. I think its nosy and inappropriate to ask as well but it doenst bother me personally. I dont ask people how much money they make (unless its my good friend hehe)
Post # 6
I’m fine telling people what size the diamond is, because I think that’s pretty plain, but I would NEVER tell them how much it cost. That truly is no one’s business.
Post # 7
Nobody’s really asked how big. Depending on who asked and how they asked, I’d either tell them how big or tell them to mind their own business.
My cousin saw a picture of it and he said it should be bigger. That’s the only rude remark I’ve gotten about it.
Post # 8
No one has asked me that. I actually had to think about the answer. So now I think if anyone did ask, I’d say, “FI told me, but we’ve been engaged so long I forgot.” True enough.
Post # 9
i’d probably answer big enough that i said yes 😛
Post # 10
I love crebre80’s suggestion! Or you could say “You know, I didn’t even ask!” or “You should ask him!” I would be light and breezy about it. When my close friends asked I was happy to tell them, but I’m also put off when people I’m not close to ask me (my coworkers, for example). I think if you kindly give a cheeky response (a la crebre80’s above) it gently puts people in their place.
It IS shocking, though, isn’t it? How invasive people can be? I’ve had people I’ve just met ask me not only how big it is, but what color and what clarity – its like they are trying to tally up the cost in their head!
Post # 11
3.75 carats. Peoples’ eyes widen. They don’t have to know what we paid for it and how amazing of a deal we got (family in the business, woot)
I also get comments eluding to it being “gaudy” and “is that even real?” and comments like, “he must love you way too much”
Oh, my favorite: “how old is he?” LOL.
He just knows i’m a jewelry wh0re, lol
Post # 12
I don’t get asked much unless they’re being jerks. I think my total carat weight is maybe .25. Mostly people just ask “Um…why is it so….small?”.
To which I respond, “Why are you so….rude?”
Post # 13
I always just tell them. 2+ carats is the norm in our circle, so it’s not a big deal. I don’t know why it’s a problem, unless you’re ashamed. Which you shouldn’t be, since it was given to you by the love of your life and it’s beautiful no matter what!
Post # 14
I’ve only had maybe one person ask that but I just laughed and admitted that I had no idea. Less than 1 carat is the best I’ve got.
Post # 15
No one has ever asked me that. I would be so ticked off if they did!
Post # 16
I think telling people the size of your diamond is telling them how much it costs. It at least gives them a rough estimate. I think that’s why the question bothers me, because I feel like they are indirectly asking, “How much did he spend on your ring?” Please, if someone tells me their diamond is 1 carat, I have a pretty good idea of the price range. Sure things like color and clarity will affect the value, but there is still a ballpark range. I guess that’s why it seems rude to me. I wouldn’t mind a close friend asking me that, but a stranger? Purlease!