(Closed) How big is it??

posted 12 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

I haven’t ever been offended by this question being asked of me…yet! I just had a girl ask me the other day…and I think it definitely is all about the approach. She was sitting behind me at a training session, and tapped me on the shoulder. She told me that she thought it was a beautiful ring, and if I didn’t mind her asking, what cut/carat the ring is. I didn’t think for a second it was rude, and of course I indulged her. But, this is obviously an isolated incident, and she was a complete stranger, so I didn’t really care what she knew! I’m sure that if I got the sense it was coming from a bad place, then I’d have to respond with a different answer!

Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I loathe this question b/c I know how big mine will be when I get it already (3).  I had a large e ring when I married my xh too btw.

I’m with Kate.  I run in circles where everybody is older now and most have upgraded their original e rings or just had big ones in the beginning.

But..that being said, at the hospital I work at there were some girls (roll eyes) who said to a friend of mine who got engaged “Wow is that thing real?  I think big stones look fake”.  I stepped in and yes, it was snarky, but I said “Really.  You’d turn down a gorgeous ring like that?  I think it’s fabulous and I know her Fiance really sacrificed for that.” 

My friend also got “well if it’s that big it has to have flaws” (from same jealous crew of clucking chickens.  I retorted for her “No.  It’s just amazing.  don’t knock it if you can’t afford it!”..lol!

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t think anyone’s asked me, but then again my ring isn’t that huge. I think with everything, the center stone and the pave it’s still less than 1 carat.

Post # 50
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Size don’t matter.  HEART is what matters!  We’re just a tad older and established that’s all! 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I neither know or care how many carats my ring is, which would be my answer, were I asked. He could have wrapped a skittle in a band aid and stuck it to my finger, and I still would have said yes, a million times over!

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Bellenga I love your comeback!! YOu’re pretty witty…I love it!

Post # 53
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Worker bee

I hate this question and I get it all the time. Complete strangers will grab my hand and ask how big my ring is and study it. Just yesterday some sales clerk literally tried to hold my hand up so she could examine every angle on my ring. SO RUDE!! My stone is a family one that I was lucky enough to receive from my fiance but all of the attention it attracts makes me squirm. 

Post # 54
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Mine’s a 1 – my guy really went for mega quality instead of size, which was one of our arguments at first – I won!  If he had to buy a diamond (his win) instead of the aquamarine, then do it right.  (which I thought would persuade him to the aquamarine… and didn’t.)
Not that I would ever turn down a huge high quality ring – I just have really small fingers and a pretty active lifestyle.

And it’s SO hard to knit with this one on – don’t know how I’d ever manage a bigger one!

Still, no matter the size, rock the look.  The thought and the symbol matter the most – I’d be just as proud of CZ, to be honest.  (and much less scared about losing the stone!)

Post # 55
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Blushing bee

Mine is just over 2 ct. total (the center is 1.75). I HATE it when people make a big deal out of it. I get really uncomfortable. It took Fiance almost 5 years to pay this puppy off. So yes, I know I’m blessed and loved and spoiled. But it didn’t have to be this big. He could have proposed with ANYTHING (I’m a little jelous of all the colored stone ring ladies) I still would have said yes. I almost feel judged by people…. 

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My ring is right at 2 carats for center stone and .5 for surrounding stones.  But my stone is a cushion halo setting so it appears to be over 3 carats! 

I’ve had his aunt ask me how many carats is on IM the other day and then she typed back nevermind that was rude of me. 

I just usually say, “I can’t remember.”

And honestly I couldn’t tell you the exact weight because we looked at so many online or at least I looked! 😉

Post # 57
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Blushing bee

Mine is about 1.5 carats, with the center stone being .75. I’ve never really been asked this question, only by my Maid/Matron of Honor. Most people just tell me it’s gorgeous and looks great on my finger.

If they did ask, I’d tell them, but I’d also mention it could have been a piece of twine tied around my finger and I would very happily say yes a million times over. Besides, Fiance paid cash for it, what’s not to love? 🙂

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think anybody has asked me yet, but I do get the “that’s BIG! Look at that Bling!” response. My center stone is about 1.05 princess cut, flanked by two .5 princess cuts, flanked by .10 roundies. So I’ve got a little over 2.20 carats total! I love my ring and it means so much to me.. I am so lucky to have gotten when I did! 

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I typically don’t get comments about the stone… I get them about the setting!  It’s gorgeous, pave band with tiny diamonds on the sides of the ring.  Even though the center diamond isn’t huge (1/3 carat) the way it’s set makes my hand look covered!  The comments are always compliments, though… no one’s actually asked about size.  Someone jokingly commented when we got engaged that it was tiny.  I looked them right in the eye and told them it was perfect. (Funnily enough, my then 13 year old brother, who is obsessed with expensive things, pipes up, “Small? That ring is covered in diamonds!!”)

Post # 60
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

In the UK the average person spends £1400 on an engagement ring (less than $2000). Most of the chain jewellers will not have anything in that is over 0.8ish carats.

Mine is 1 carat and it is considered big buy lots of people. I am a nurse but am on a training scheme with majority doctors, and they consider it to be “a rock”. I sometimes get embarrassed when make a comment like “wow, that’s huge” and just make a comment that I am a very lucky girl. Nobody has asked me to my face how big it is, but I can sometimes see their minds racing to work out how much it costs.

In Jewish princess circles that I grew up with, it is considered a reasonable size, but most of my Jewish friends have rings 1.5ish, although the odd one has 2 carats.

I also get comments about the setting, which I had made for me based on an antique ring I saw. Most people are shocked and think I am super posh having it made for me, as most people I know just buy a ring in a shop and don’t know you can get stone and setting separately or have a setting made for you.

Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

I haven’t had anyone ask the specs yet….well besides a complete stranger…I think my setting makes mine look much bigger than it is, prob why no one asks.  My center stone is slightly larger than 1 ct and then has all the smaller stones..I think the total weight it somewhere aroung 2 cts

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