(Closed) How Big Is Your Family?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

My fiance and I are both only children and we each have one parent who is an only child, so our numbers are pretty low. However, my mother has 5 brothers and sisters who have all married and had children. If I were to invite them, it would be around 25 people. Since we are getting married in Las Vegas, the invite list is pretty slim.

Post # 4
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I’ve only got about 12 people, total in my family, including aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents.

The man has about 40-50. 

Post # 5
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Mine- exactly 100 , just immediate, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins & one niece. (I come from large Italaian and Irish Catholic families)

His- wayyyyyyyy less. Between 30 and 45.  His mom isn’t sure if she should invite everyone since he doesn’t know most of them. They aren’t super close.


Post # 6
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

Fiance and I both have fairly small families. Both our moms are from the Philippines and neither one of us have EVER met anyone from our mom’s side. So we both only have one side of a family, our dad’s.

Including ‘rents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents:
I have 12 in my family
Fi has 7 in his family
Total of 19 peeps

Post # 7
1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

our families are really small.  i have my parents + brother in immediate.  in my extended, my aunt and three cousins attended our wedding (uncle had to work, and other cousin couldn’t come with her two small children).

mr. bee’s family is also very small.  two sisters + parents.  and then an aunt + 2 cousins attended. 

between the two of us, we had 14 relatives total!

Post # 8
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We both have large extended families too! No matter where the wedding would be (my hometown, where we live now or our destination location) they would have to travel anyways so it will cut back on who comes. I am pretty close with my cousins and they are making the trip but my fiance’s are a lot older and most will not be able to make it.

Post # 9
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My family is huuuuge! My mom has 11 brothers and sisters, and my dad has 5 – add up all of the 1st cousins, and in many cases 2nd and 3rd cousins, and just my side of the family adds up to over 100 people! It’s definitely made planning a budget wedding challenging, but when it comes down to it we’re very blessed to have such a wonderful large family in our lives.

Post # 10
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Our families are both huge.  Both of us come from very Catholic families!  I haven’t counted the exact numbers, but I know that with just close family we were over 60…

Post # 11
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

My immediate family (Mom, Dad, Sister, me) = 4
His immediate family (Mom, Step Dad, Dad, Step Mom, Sister, Sister’s Boyfriend or Best Friend, Him) = 7
My Grandmother = 1
My Aunts, Uncles, Cousins = 6
His Aunt, Uncles, Cousins = 7 
His Grandmother and Claude = 2
His Steps(as he calls them) = 4
Ooooh I just realized he has more family invited then me 🙂 and he keeps talking about how many ppl I’m inviting hahahaha
Total = 31

Post # 12
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

His immediate family (parents, brother & sis-in-law, himself): 5

My immediate family (parents, 2 brothers & two brothers’ gfs, myself): 7

My grandparents: 2

My aunts and uncles: 7

My cousins (including their spouses where applicable): 16

His aunts and uncles: 14 (his dad is one of eight children)

His cousins: It’s probably close to 20. 

Mine is also the type of family in which good friends are treated as parts of the family, and there is no way I could exclude any of those "just like family" people from my wedding, nor would I want to.  There are at least 20 of those people.

That’s almost 100 people right there. But I’m really, really excited to have all of my family and all of his family together for one event.  It’s going to be crazy and fun.

Post # 13
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I have 42 people on my Mom’s side of the family, and I’m really close to 35 of them.  On my Dad’s side I have 17.  My fiance has 12 total, and they aren’t as close so most of them won’t be flying out.  I feel bad dominating the invite list with my family, but nothing makes me happier than knowing that they’ll all be there for us.  To be honest, our wedding will be just over 100 people because of my large family.  B,ut to me it will still feel like an "intimate" wedding because it will be mostly close family and friends who have been part of our lives for a long time.

Post # 14
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

This math always makes my head hurt — my mom is one of 7 and my dad is one of 9 — so take 16 times 2 for spouses that’s 32 … and all those marriages led to 35 cousins!!!!  So that’s about 65 on my side alone — his immediate family isn’t as big — probably about 25, but they have another 15 people who aren’t family but are closer with them then I am with some of my family!  Needless to say this, along with the fact that we went to different schools means that our guest list is massive.

Post # 15
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Neither of our families is too big but a lot of my family wont’ be able to make it as they are too old/frail to travel to our wedding in Ohio so the invite number will be a lot higher than who actually comes 🙁

Post # 16
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have a huge family that will all come the wedding, fi has a decent sized family that will probably not be coming (becaues they don’t us so well and travel costs!)

Probably anticipating 40 of 55 family members for me and 10 of 30 for Fi

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