Post # 1
Thinking about this in class today as one of my not-so-friendly classmates reached over and flipped open my cell to look at the time, and on another occasion started picking at/messing with my computer case…. all within close proximity to my person (under 6 inches space from me and their hand doing the reaching out of the blue) I felt weirded out!
I’d say my own personal bubble is anywhere over 3 feet…. if people come closer to me than that it’d better be my family, my husband or my best friend. O.o
How about you? Are you a people-toucher? Or a stay-away-from-me person?
Post # 3
I would have said “excuse me!” to the classmate when your phone was grabbed. That’s obnoxious!
I don’t like people getting too close. Even people I know well. I don’t mind being near a friend or family member when talking, but I don’t like when people touch me during a conversation. That bugs me. Strangers can just stay away.
Post # 4
I cannot stand anyone near me period but I have Aspergers Syndrome and social interactions can really drain me or make me panic. I’ve been known to “flip sh*t” at people if they touch me or any of my stuff, I’m very confrontational about it, I can’t really control that aspect of my personality. Certain “triggers” will make my brain-to-mouth filter shut off and you will hear my thoughts no matter how much I want to hold my tongue, and being in my space is one of them.
I’ve gone through some behavioral training for this, but there is absolutely NO REASON for you to touch me (outside of greetings such as handshakes and the occaisional unavoidable hug) or ANY of my personal belongings and I will make you well aware of that.
Post # 5
I have a personal bubble space of about 3-6 feet for strangers or acquaintances. With my loved ones, close friends and family I’m very physically affectionate, such as hugging, touching, etc. However, if I don’t know someone well I don’t want them too close. I would have felt like smacking your classmate, WTH, that is so rude.
Post # 6
I’ve never measured it, but it depends on the situation. My bubble is huge in the supermarket!
Post # 7
Touching me/my personal belongings is pushing it, I admit that’s true. Ru’!
Also, I thought after I posted this that it could vary based on culture, parts of the world we are from. I am from America… but raised in a way that is hands-off… VERY different from my schoolmates who are from the country or places where everything is everyones and sharing is the norm.
Post # 8
i dont like when people touch me
Post # 9
@SimplyChic11: That’s a good point, a lot of times personal space is very much a cultural thing.
Post # 10
It depends on the person. The guys I work with? Less than six inches. Any of the managers? 3- 6 feet. All of the bartenders? They best stay on their side of the line ( 6-12 feet)
Post # 11
Ick…I’d have been very unhappy if someone got that close to me! I can’t stand it when people invite themselves into my bubble….like the over-friendly coworkers who want to put a hand on your shoulder when talking to you. I want to yell, “DON’T TOUCH ME!!!!” Funny enough, I’m like that with even people I’m close to for some reason. My Darling Husband has been the ONLY person I’ve ever been cuddly with or really held hands with in public…
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Wait…. this person just reached over and opened your phone??????? I’d swat at that person’s hand on reflex. WTF? Don’t topuch me or my stuff, unless you are family or a reallllllyyyyyy good friend.
Post # 13
3-6 feet unless I know you or there’s a reason to be closer than that. People I know I give pretty much free reign- friends, Fiance, family, etc. But I’m very, very weird about strangers. I don’t like to hug people, I don’t like cheek-kissers when I don’t know them well. Or obviously if there’s a reason, like we’re sitting at a small table to talk or something, that’s fine.
Post # 14
I voted “other” because it depends who is in my bubble…. if it’s a guy and he creeps me out, yeah, my bubble is 10 feet and beyond!
Post # 15
I have personal space…issues lol I feel clausterphobic if people are too close to me that I don’t know. I can not stand when I’m speaking to someone and they keep moving closer to me and I keep backing away. HELLO! Take a social cue people!
ETA: I also had a slight breakdown/freak out when I was 16/17ish working in a restraunt on Valentines day. As a hostess in the waiting area. It was pretty bad.
Post # 16
I’m so not a touchy feely person where strangers are involved. It drives me insane when people stand unescessarily close to me at the market or something. I’d venture to say my bubble is smaller than most. Lol