Post # 1
I have seen a lot of posts about big vs. small, your dream wedding vs. your Fiance or your family’s. Just curious about how many people will be attending your wedding, the venue and if you are happy with what you have planned.
Our wedding will be 55-60 people. The ceremony is at a garden at an arboretum and the reception is at a small room at the same location. I am happy with what we have ended up with. I was married previously for 2 years (never should have done it) and had a 150 person wedding. While I LOVE event planning, the thought of a giant wedding made me panicky. My Fi has never been married, he is 34, I am 36. He says he would have been happy going to the courthouse, but he also says he wants to declare his love for me to everyone. I originally suggested an even smalller wedding like 30 people, family and close (wedding party) friends only. His family is much larger and much closer to each other than mine, so the wedding got a little bigger, and we both added some friends. While he has an extremely technical job, his understanding of wedding logistics is the worst. If we had invited every person he said “OMG, we have to invite xxx” the wedding would be twice as big and we would have had to switch venues. Fortunately, we are also have a GIANT party and inviting pretty much everyone we know shortly after the wedding, so I just kept telling him all the people he wanted to invite could go to that.
Overall, I am super happy with our venue, it’s pretty much perfect (excpet you can’t hang anythign on the walls). I am mostly happy with the guest count. WE are in that weird area where it’s a little more than just family but you have to cut it somewhere. With the way the guest list changed, the people that got added were not in the same way if the count were higher to begin with.
Post # 2
Ours is leaning towards 200 guests (maybe 175). I would love a smaller event, but we are both from large families and it would be dramatic to push to have a smaller guest list. FFIL’s side of the family can be challenging in that way.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2015 - City, State
Our wedding had about 100 guest, so average maybe? I loved having that may guest attend, especially after writing the “thank you” cards! I would have cried if I had to write any more notes!!
Post # 4
Ours is 80 – 90. We originally planned to invite 120 but decided to cut it back for budget and sanity reasons. Haha
I’m happy with the size of our wedding. although sometimes i wish we could have just booked extra time at our honeymoon and got married there. Fiance wont have a bar of it. Haha
Post # 5
We had 56 people including wedding party most of those were family and 8 were my dads friends DH has a tiny family so his side weren’t many and we only have a small friendship circle.
i was happy I didn’t have to plan/fund something bigger
Post # 6
We were planning on a 60 person wedding. We orignally wanted less than a 20 person wedding but my fiance has a big family so we had to increase that number up to 60 person wedding and now it is up to 52 people since a lot of people won’t be able to attend. I never wanted a big wedding. I always wanted my wedding to be with family and close friends.
I am a little upset with the number but that is because I just found out that it might be a little small for the room that I wanted at my venue. I am hoping the venue will still let us use the room. Oh well it is out of my hands now. Otherwise I am totally happy with the amount of people that will be attending my wedding.
Post # 7
40 on the list – that’s just immediate family and a few close friends with their SO. I anticipate about 30 attending, and while I could certainly think of a few more people who would love to come if their flisht didn’t cost an arm and a leg, the size is right.
It’s not my first rodeo and I did not listend to relatives chiming in “oh, why won’t you invite your cousin? Aren’t auntie so and so coming?” Nope. nope. nope. Only these deeply involved in our lives are invited.
Post # 8
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
We had a 12 person guest list and loved it! We both have large families but they’re super spread out and the families have a LOT of drama so we decided on immediate family only! It was awesome because it wasn’t stressful, I actually knew everyone on both sides and our families got the chance to get to know each other.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
72 people including bridal party and I think it will be perfect! We had eight declines – any more than 80 would have been crowded in our venue and I love it so much I would have cut people to keep it! Fortunately we were both happy with the number of guests invited as we got all the really important ones.
Post # 10
We had 45 people (by choice) all immediate family and super close friends. In the end, I was very very happy that I didnt have the large wedding. I felt like I barely had enough time for the 45 people and I could barely walk to the restroom without someone stopping me to chat. If I could do it all again though I would have done a destination wedding somewhere with a few people. I was being pulled by hair and makeup and photgraphers and I would have loved more time with my husband on the day of!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2016 - Cambridge Mill
Our guest List has about 118 right now (early stages of planning) and by my family’s standards thats a pretty small wedding. I am super happy about the number and I know not every one will attend. I’m looking forward to A) knowing everyone in attendance and B) having the opportunity to mingle and socialize with all my guests!!
Post # 12
220 attended – maybe 250 invited. Hubby’s family lived 3+ hours away, and it was in December. I’m an only child and only grandchild, and parents hosted 100%. My mother always said “do it right, or don’t do it at all,” and we did it up right.
When it was all over, though, I wished we had just invited the number of people who would have fit in the choir pews, in the front of the church. That would have been about 44, plus bridal party. I realized I would have been fine with just a fancy dinner, and not full blow dinner and dancing, with live band. But with his side having to travel, I have my doubts that they would have done so, if we had downsized on the celebration.
We hosted 225, for my firts daughter’s wedding, and I was having flashbacks. When the 2nd one to marry picked a much small venue (hosted 95), the next year, I was happy about it. Still had to deal with a lot of stuff the evening of, family pressure to add to the guest list, etc. Glad it’s over!
Post # 13
We are planning a vow renewal, for our court wedding, we didn’t plan or invite our family. Only two witnesses, my husband family was pissed up because they weren’t invited?!. For our vow renewal we want to invite at least 100 people, this is a low amount for us since we have huge families. Dh has 19 siblings…. if I could I would have max 50 people, to save money, and to have something more intimate, lets see what happens….
Post # 14
I wanted a small wedding, maybe 50… with our parents’ lists we ended up with 170 invited, I’m hoping no more than 120 come!
Post # 15
We were going to have around 20 people. But through a series of relatives asking MY MOM (not me) to be invited, we ended up at 33. Which was fine– it was still small but was due to the whole “if you invite one cousin, you have to invite all 4/their SOs etc…” Kind of thing which is a lot of extra people when you only had 20 core people to start with. I wasn’t really upset about the extra people as much as they asked my mom before asking me.