(Closed) How big of a fauz pas is it…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I invite her to my bachelorette party?
    Yes : (24 votes)
    49 %
    No : (25 votes)
    51 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    you have 225 guests and none of them are friends? wow.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it’s fine, so long as your co-worker doesn’t get it into her head that she’s also invited to the wedding. Just be very clear about it when you invite her for your bachelorette.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’ve been invited to bachlorette parties w/o being invited to the wedding so I think its ok. I feel you on the big family, thats why I decided to go the Destination Wedding route, most won’t travel! My last cousins wedding was for 450 people because she did invite a FEW friends!!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Ahhh! That should be 350! I added 100 people! sorry.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it is rude. If you are including someone in wedding festivities like a shower or bachelorette they don’t necessarily need to be in your bridal party but they at least need to be invited to the wedding. 

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    As long as you say something lighthearted like, you know I can’t invite you to the wedding b/c our families are so big it’s funny…. but i’d really love it if you could join us for my bachelorette party!

     

    I’m having a destination wedding w/ only 30 people (immediate family + close friends) and had 4 friends at my bachelortte party that aren’t invited to the wedding. I don’t think they cared one bit. 

    Post # 9
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    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m guess at this point she most likely knows she isn’t invited to the wedding, so I think as long as you say “hey I’m bummed I can’t invite you to the wedding but i really want you to party it up with me” she’ll likely be really touched. I wouldn’t worry about it 🙂

    Post # 10
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    5890 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i guess the thing that is throwing me is that i think the only scenario where this is okay is when the wedding is really small- i.e. destination or court house wedding…since yours is a large wedding, i feel like you will have plenty of women to invite to your bachelorette party.  but, i could be wrong.

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I agree with Allyser. The bachelorette party is to celebrate the upcoming wedding. I would be offended if I were invited to a party to celebrate the upcoming wedding that I’m not invited to. I would post a poll on this one! Looks like very mixed opinions here! 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    a murder mystery dinner!!!!!! that sounds like so much fun- i am planning on getting one of these kits and doing it for my bday.  are you going this route, too, or are you going to one of those places where they host them?

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I would invite her. She knows she’s not invited and why, and you’re right– it’s not a gift giving occasion, like a bridal shower, AND it’s something that she loves? I see no problem with inviting her.

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I change my opinion. I think it’s perfectly fine to invite her. (Since she already knows ahead of time she’s not invited to the wedding)   Sounds like fun!!

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    If you are up front and explain that you’d love for her to come out, but she can’t be invited to the wedding, I think it’s fine. I think she’d be glad to be able to celebrate with you.

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