(Closed) How big of a PITA am I? Want to change my ring AGAIN…

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Bumble bee

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@Woobee:  omg that sapphire halo is to die for! It’s absolutely perfect for an asscher. I loveeee it!!! Please get that one!!! Lol although I would imagine it would be quite pricey!

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

Have you ever watched Say Yes to the Dress?  One of their mantras is “once you find a dress,  stop shopping”.  As long as you keep looking at other settings, you’ll keep picking this ring apart.  I understand being picky.  I’ve been working on designing a setting for 5 months.  We haven’t bitten the bullet because I’m not positive it’s right.  We work on it for an hour once a month, and let the design hang out for a month or two before we make changes.  Being patient allows you time to figure out what you’re really after.  Take a break.  Stop looking.  See if you like any of these rings in six months.  

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sapphire! Sapphire! Sapphire!

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@ddhb2007:  Really good application of the SYTTD advice! It’s true that you can always find SOMETHING you might like more… but if you like what you have well enough, that’s all you can ask! 

Post # 36
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Helper bee

@Woobee:  I’m a PITA of the highest order lol so I totally understand where you’re coming from. We returned my first e-ring and are currently getting my new one custom made. Ultimately, it is based on a setting I kept coming back too. No matter what rings I saw and liked Fiance and I kept going back to the same design– that’s how we knew it was “the one”.

That being said- I agree with previous bees in saying that the settings from your pinterest are all very different and you should wait.

Since I am also a certified PITA this isn’t about it being the third time/ring. I don’t think you have to wait for an anniversary to get a new one and unless I absolutely had too I would never stick with a ring I didn’t like for 5 or 10 years. I am suggesting you wait because I believe that everyone should have a ring they love. If you had different versions of the same ring I would say go for it- you know what you like and what you want and you should get it! But after this whole process I think you should wait for the ring you LOVE. Don’t feel rushed about it. Take a step away from looking at rings for a while and see if you fall in love with what you have. If your current ring really isn’t “the one” you won’t change your mind. If it isn’t the one, take the time to see what you really want. Wait for the ring that you keep coming back too. When you see the one that makes you swoon and you love it best, even when you see others that are also nice, you will know it’s the one for you.

By the way- I REALLY like the last one and like other bees said if you make sure the corners aren’t exposed I think it would be quite a lovely e-ring.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Woobee: sit on it for a while before you change it again. And don’t send him alone with a few inspiration ideas. Design it!

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I love the 1st Diamond Halo and the last ring. 

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Well, since you asked, here are my thoughts:

First ring – nice. But I can see why you weren’t in love with it.

Second ring – WOW – I LOVE IT! GORGEOUS.

Third pics etc – Meh. I’m not crazy about halos, like, they’re nice but maybe not for me. I think you could rock it but you already have a gorgeous ring.

I agree with everyone that thinks you might be tempted to change the setting again, and again… where does it end? There will always be a setting out there that makes your jaw drop. But at a certain point, you just have to love the one you have, because it is yours 🙂

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I love the first two inspiration photos, I’d get it reset!  There’s no “rule” that says you can only change your ring once, or twice, or three times, whatever!  Get what you love :-)!!!

Post # 41
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Sugar bee

@Woobee:  I love asschers and inspiration pics #2 and #4 make me swoon (especially #4, AMAZING!) Just accept that you need one more change and be happy with it.

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Woobee:  I’m in love with the last inspiration pic!! It’s so feminine and pretty. I might be biased though, because I have a princess cut on a similar band.

I have mixed feelings about redesigning a new setting right now though. On the one hand, you should have what you love. On the other, it might just be that you’re spending too much time looking at settings and comparing your ring to others that you see online. I think you should give it some more time and use the money for something else now. Like PP said, if you still don’t like it in a few years, you can have it redesigned as an anniversary present.

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