(Closed) How big of a role did your groom play in wedding planning?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 31
4108 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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lptalbot :  DH acted as a springboard for me, mostly. He had three things that were absolutely important to him: Bomb ass DJ, good food, and he wanted a soul train at the reception. Therefore, come time to pick the caterer and DJ, he was all about it. He actively helped me look and we narrowed down our pick together. After that, he would always listen to me if I was venting or trying to choose between something, but he (respectfully) didn’t really care about the rest of the details. He knew and trusted my vision and judgement, so he didn’t get involved for that reason. 

Post # 32
1264 posts
Bumble bee

My Fiance was very involved in planning when we first got engaged.  We didn’t want to have a long engagement so we had to make a lot of big decisions right away.  He gave his preference for a winter wedding so he knew he had to come look at venues, and we knew we wanted a smaller, restaurant reception.  We booked the venue at one of our favorite restaurants so we knew the food was good.  We’re also getting married at a non-denominational church near the reception and he was there to check it out.  

But the other details he doesn’t care much about.  I told him the bridesmaids are going to wear black dresses and he said “great!” and I asked his preference for suits or tuxes, and he was suprised that suits were an option.  We both thought suits would be easier so that’s what we’re going with.

My Fiance just started a new job earlier this week and his busy season will be fall and winter so I’ve been taking charge, and he’s fine with it.  I tell him things and his response to everything is “sounds great!” so I don’t know if he’s really listening or not, but since they’re not big decisions, I know he doesn’t care.

It’s actually made planning go very smoothly. smile

Post # 33
427 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

“Do you want to do this or that?” “Yep.” “So both?” “I wasn’t listening.”

He did arrange the caterer and pick most of the food and has done tons of work on the house to get it ready. But details? They’re all me. A week out (!!!) and we’re totally good to go except that I’m trying to convince him that no, you cannot “just wing” your vows. 

“Aren’t I just supposed to promise to protect you from bears and put you in the nice nursing home?”

Post # 34
1153 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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lptalbot : My Fiance has played a pretty good role in wedding planning! We toured venues together, he went to meet different DJ’s with me, and he gives me honest opinions whenever I ask for them. He was totally in charge of food, dessert, his outfit, the groomsmen, and alcohol. 

Since he had free range with food, he chose gourmet pizza and for dessert he got a super cool ice cream truck to come deliver ice cream (think homemade ice cream, not Baskin Robbins)

The only thing he doesn’t care about at all are the flowers.

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