(Closed) How big 'should' the bridal party be?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: How big should the bridal party be?

    no more than 5% of the guest list (100 guests = 5 attendants TOTAL)

    no more than 10% of the guest list (100 guests = 10 attendants TOTAL)

    no more than 4 per side

    no more than 5 per side

    no more than 6 per side

    no more than 7 per side

    no more than 8 per side

    no more than 9 per side

    no more than 10 per side

  • Post # 32
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think the idea of a formula calculating how many attendants you should have is completely silly. We had 160 guests (including the bridal party). Hub had 7 groomsmen total with my little nephews, I had 8 bridesmaids total with my niece. We didn’t have ushers. Our pictures looked phenomenal, it filled the front of the chapel nicely. Yes, that’s a big bridal party, but we chose our closest friends from each stage of our lives. 

    Post # 33
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

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    @MsGinkgo:  I am that girl- I have 10 BMs- all of whom I am very close to. Fiance has 7. That might sound crazy, but throughout life you accumulate people. For family, I have 2 sisters, 1 first cousin who is like a sister (she’s an only child and we are a year apart), 1 Future Sister-In-Law (I may have felt a little family pressure on this one, but we get along great and has been really helpful in planning because she got married 1.5 years ago).  But I didn’t want NO friends in the wedding party! And then you add a couple high school BFFs, a couple college BFFs, and my grad school BFF. And I’ll still have a ton of friends who aren’t in my bridal party. I have a small family, so most people at our wedding guests are friends. Just how it worked out for us!

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I read from both Emily Post and Martha Stewart that the “rule of thumb” is 1 attendant on each side per 50 people on the guest list. We had a little over 200 guests, so four people on each side. 

    I don’t think people need to be that stringent, but much more than that (say, 8 people on each side for a 100-person wedding) starts to feel excessive. 

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee

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    @jordyanna:  Hahaha I understand. Ive got my best friend, one of my sisters and his sister. I’m contemplating my other really good friend but I just dont knoooow. I’m just not one of those girls with 50 best friends.

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I’m having 10 bridesmaids, 2 unofficial “bridesmen”, and 10 groomsmen, but none of them will be standing during the ceremony (all walking down the aisle to their seats) :-)! 

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Im actually debating this myself and its getting tricky-why? Because I come from a family of all girls-3 sisters. So after adding 3 sisters, 2 super close friends, 2 long term friends, and 2 female cousins=9 girls already. This is why I havent even decided on my bridal party because I dont want 10 women up there with me-yet, I genuinely want to include them all…

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @MsGinkgo:  My bridal party is ZERO and it’s glorious.

    No muss, no fuss, no drama. I feel like every bride “should” do this.  But of course, to each their own.  Smile

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

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    @mjwyatt84:  

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    @MsBark:  

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    @pineapplez17:  Sorry, I didn’t mean to be rude (though my post did sound a bit bitchy), it’s just my opinion. To each their own. 

    Post # 40
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    @MrsSweetT:  I didn’t say you were rude. I agreed with you that it’s odd when all of the bride’s friends are in the party. Then I said I’m annoyed that I have to have 7 girls because I’m unfortunate enough to have 2 sisters. I wasn’t about to get rid of two girls I’m actually close with, so I’m stuck with 7.

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I have been to a wedding where the wedding party outnumbered the guests by the time dinner was done.  If you are that point, I don’t care how close you are to everyone, you need to make cuts. 

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee

    I’ve heard the rule (I could be wrong though) and got this from it:

    You typically need 1 usher (who is also a groomsman) to seat 50 guests.  I think sides should be equal, therefore 1 bridesmaid per 50 guests.  So 2 attendants (1 per side) per 50 guests plus 2 honor attendants (1 per side).  So a wedding of around 50 would have two on each side, while a wedding of 100 would be 3 on each, and a wedding of 150 would be 4 on each.

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Having been through a wedding and had some difficult bridesmaid issues I think the least amount possible is the best way to go….

    Big bridal parties:

    • more for bride/groom to spend on gifts and other things  (hiar, makeup, etc)
    • the more people in the photo the less likely the photo will turn out well (eyes closed, mouth open, person looking the wrong way
    • toooooo many opinions…….. (dress, shoes, etc)
    • toooo many people that can mess things up or make things more complicated

     

    Post # 45
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Having been through a wedding and had some difficult bridesmaid issues I think the least amount possible is the best way to go….

    Big bridal parties:

    • more for bride/groom to spend on gifts and other things  (hiar, makeup, etc)
    • the more people in the photo the less likely the photo will turn out well (eyes closed, mouth open, person looking the wrong way
    • toooooo many opinions…….. (dress, shoes, etc)
    • toooo many people that can mess things up or make things more complicated

     

    Post # 46
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My personal opinion is that once the bridal party starts getting huge, it gets a little strange. Anymore than 6 or so bridesmaids/groomsmen seems weird to me.

    I am having 2 bms, and 2 gms for our wedding [we are inviting 114 people, not sure how many are actually coming as of yet].

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